We are grateful to you for considering us to raise your baby. And we recognize that as you seek to find just the right loving home for your child, your ultimate decision will be deeply rooted in unspoken measures of faith, trust, hope and perhaps a bit of uncertainty. So thank you for reading on to learn more about us and our intentions for raising your child.
First, though, we wonder about what you’ve been through, what you’re going through now, and how you're feeling about everything. We can only imagine that your recent experiences and this big, important decision may be the toughest and most emotionally-taxing of your life. We recognize that the choice of who will raise your child is perfectly unique to you, as you are your baby’s one-and-only birth mother. We truly hope that you are proud of yourself for the brave and self-sacrificial decision you are making, for the hard work you’ve done so far, and for the commitment you’ve made, which impacts your life, your baby’s, and that of the adoptive parents you choose. There is nothing easy or simple about the situation you are in or the decision you are making.
As for us, we have always envisioned our complete family to include biological and adopted children. We attempted to have a biological child first. For six years we tried, but with no success. It was a very difficult season. We were disappointed and it felt unfair that we wanted a child, worked hard and waited patiently for one, but to no avail. As a result, we spent time being sad over the loss of our original dream. Accepting this reality was hard work, but a few very important things happened as a result. Our relationship became stronger because of the hardship we worked through together. We are now able to relate more deeply to people dealing with difficult circumstances. And we are much more appreciative than we originally thought possible, of you, the mom who might trust us to raise her child, and for your child, the one we’ve been praying and preparing for, to join our long awaited family.
As for your child, we will provide him or her with a strong foundation, and help them build life skills and healthy habits that will carry them through adulthood and old age! They will be allowed freedom to make mistakes, and from them, encouraged to learn and grow. They will be encouraged to explore the world and their surroundings, to laugh, play, imagine, create and build. As much as possible, we will foster a sense of curiosity, and an ability to strive to do their personal best by thinking critically and accomplishing challenges they set for themselves. They will spend plenty of time outdoors playing with siblings and friends, and eating fresh fruits and vegetables from the garden. We’ll take trips to Nevada and California to visit grandparents and cousins, and we’ll learn about different cultures by traveling to places they’ve never been, and trying local foods. They’ll learn bible verses and fun worship songs, and practice learning to trust God and do what is right, even when times are hard. We will have lots of conversations, share our thoughts and feelings, challenge each other, celebrate victories together, and explore ways to help each other solve problems. Most importantly, though, we will love your child immensely and work hard to provide him/her with a joy-filled life.
And as for you, you are carrying your child. He or she may look like you and have unique personality traits like yours. And it is you who will choose the adoptive family best suited to raise them. You are already an invaluable and unmatchable piece of your child’s wellbeing and future. We intend to honor and carry out the good work you’ve begun. And while it is likely that your child will want to know about you and have a relationship with you, we also wonder if you might be curious about how they will grow and develop. So, in whatever capacity you are comfortable staying in touch, and/or building and maintaining a relationship, we are open to that. But no matter what, know that your child will know of the positive impact your strength, bravery, and heartfelt decision has made on his or her life.