Dear Expectant Mom,
We can’t imagine what you are going through right now. Our hearts ache for you as we think of the tough decisions you are facing as you try to determine what will be the best life for your tiny baby. We are honored that you would consider us as parents for your precious child. If you give us the opportunity to adopt your baby, we promise to cherish him or her with all of our heart, time, and energy. When they cry in the night, we will cuddle them; when they trip and scrape their knee, we will kiss them and cover the scrape with a Winnie-the-Pooh band-aid; when they conquer riding a bike, we will celebrate. We will be their coach, nurse, friend, and cheerleader. And when the questions come about how they were born we will tell them about you, the brave woman who loved them so much she made one of the hardest decisions anyone will ever make.
We would love to welcome your beautiful baby into our home. We both love children and can hardly imagine a life without them. When we were dating, we dreamed of creating a family with both biological and adopted children; then maybe doing foster care. God has a way of turning things upside down. We currently have one little foster daughter. Having her has been the most wonderful thing in our lives since our marriage. We would adopt her in a moment if we could, however, it seems likely she will be reunified with her parents. Having a baby in our home quickly taught us that the baby must be the center of our world. She tells us how much sleep we will get and if we can make supper right now. She demands hugs and nursery rhymes and splashy baths. We love her to the moon and back and long for the privilege of caring for your baby the same way.
We were excited to start our family, so shortly after we were married, we began trying to get pregnant. After trying unsuccessfully for two and a half years to conceive and many weary doctor appointments, we would love to move ahead with adoption. We have been given so much love and time and wonderful experiences by our parents and we dream of passing that on to more children.
Family is very important to us. We both come from close-knit families and our best childhood memories revolve around siblings and family time. Nathaniel is the youngest of seven children and Deb is second from the oldest in a family of four. Nathaniel grew up working beside his older brothers in his dad’s construction business. He tells tales of sledding in the winter, biking home from school, and playing tricks on each other. Deb’s best childhood memories include planting the garden together, roasting hotdogs around the campfire, playing “Hide and Seek” after dark, and biking on Sunday afternoons. We dream of creating the same kind of memories for your little one. Our siblings are some of our best friends and even though we don’t live in the same community as either of our families we get together with them as often as possible. Because of our own wonderful experiences, we would love to eventually add more children to our family so that your baby could experience life-long sibling friendships like we appreciate.
We are excited to meet you but also nervous. We hope that you like us and understand our commitment to love your baby unconditionally. You will always have a special place in our lives and I hope that we will be able to keep in touch and exchange pictures. We want you to know that we pray for you often. We pray that God will protect you and give you wisdom for the tough decisions you are facing and that you will feel His love with you every step of the way.