Thank you for considering us as adoptive parents to your child.
We have not stood where you are standing now, but we would like the opportunity to stand beside you in this moment, and for the moments that are coming. To us, this moment in your life seems like a diamond: both hard and precious. Hard because of a kaleidoscope of emotions, changes to your body, and challenging decisions. Precious because it is the start of your baby’s life, a new chapter in yours, and a new chapter in ours.
Since the beginning of our relationship, we have imagined what it will be like to show our child the world. We will teach them the names of plants and animals, tell them about thunderstorms and rainbows and blue skies. We will read them stories about courage before bed, draw birds with them on the living room floor, have dance parties in the kitchen, and sing silly songs on road trips. We will give them opportunities to ask questions, form their own opinions, stand up for their beliefs, feel how they feel, and speak their truth. Our goal is to raise your child to feel capable and competent to build a life that is uniquely and deeply their own.
I [Jordan] have wanted children for as long as I can remember. So many of my choices—choices to develop my integrity, my education, my career, my financial position, my sense of self— have been in the service of the moment that I would be blessed with the opportunity to love, protect, and nurture a baby. When I discovered that I could not have children as a result of the cancer treatment I received in my 20s, I was devastated. I had wanted so much to feel a small life grow inside me. It has taken time and patience to accept the impossibility of having a baby the way I thought I would have a baby, but I am grateful for the opportunity I have now to wait, with all the vulnerability and bravery I can hold in my heart, to be chosen as the guardian of someone’s special child.
I [Cei] am a transgender man and have been living full time in my gender identity since I was eleven years old. For me, being transgender means that I was assigned a female sex at birth, but that I am a man and have used medical gender affirmation tools like surgery and hormones to align my body with my identity. Because of this, I am unable to have biological children, though I did consider carrying a pregnancy for our family for a time. After careful consideration, I realized that this was not the right path for me, and that adoption was the way we wanted to build our family. Jordan and I have always wanted children, and I am extremely grateful for the opportunity to adopt and love a child as our own.
We believe that every person has the right to know the story of who they are and where they come from. If you were to grant us the privilege of raising your baby, from the beginning and always, you will be a part of their story. “Our” and “we” will always include you, especially when we tell your child that they are loved. We look forward to discovering who your child is and sharing those discoveries with you. We want your child to know you. We want your story to be part of their story.
With all the sincerity in our hearts,
Jordan and Cei