To you from us:
In so many ways this letter is very difficult for us to write and quite honestly, probably very difficult for you to read.
From our end, it’s hard to be totally overjoyed. Yes, we are obviously very happy and filled with joy at the prospects of being parents. But it’s difficult being fully overcome with joy knowing that for us to become parents, you have to do something that is very hard and extremely unselfish; you have to give up your child.
We can’t imagine the roller coaster of emotions you must be going through. No one can comprehend that. Regardless of the circumstances for which this is happening; it cannot be an easy thing for you to do. That’s why it hard for us to be blindly joyful. How can we be, knowing that the precious life you bring into this world will be placed with someone else to raise as their very own. What you are considering is so loving and beyond compare. We thank God for allowing you to have faith in us and trust us with the life-changing task and awesome responsibility of becoming parents for your child.
To help ease your mind with this decision there are a few things we would like for you to know.
First of all, from the bottom of our hearts, we would like to thank you for believing in us. Thank you for trusting us. We are not perfect people and we were not raised by perfect parents. But we were raised by parents who instilled in us morals, values, principles, and a sense of faith, to guide us along the way. As a married couple, we have tried to take all of those morals, values, principles, and faith lessons and use them to strengthen our relationship. We are looking forward to the opportunity to share with, teach, and positively influence a young life. We will not be perfect parents. We will make mistakes along the way. But rest assured, EVERY decision we make will be for the well-being of your child. EVERYTHING we do will be for the betterment of your child. Your child will be showered every day with love. Your child, will be the most important addition to our lives. We are now saddled with the greatest responsibility of our married life; the responsibility of being parents. It’s a responsibility we do not take lightly and it’s a responsibility we are very much looking forward to. We look forward to the first words and the first steps. We look forward to the first day of school and all of the trials and tribulations of helping with homework along the way. We look forward to the many Friday night bonfires, decorating for Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, birthdays, anniversaries and everything in between. We look forward to sharing the legend of the “Tooth Fairy” and trying to explain how money was left under the pillow. We look forward to dressing up for Halloween and telling scary stories by a fire. We look forward to that first encounter with Santa Claus and all the joy it brings. We look forward to going to church together on Sunday, sharing and nurturing our faith together as a family. As your child ages and develops his or her own interests and passions, we look forward to being there every step of the way, the good and the bad, the highs and the lows, supporting their every endeavor. Most of all…we are looking forward to being a family and growing together each and every day.
Please know that you will not be a forgotten entity. How could you be? You will have given this precious being life. You want pictures? You got it. You want updates? You got it. You will always…and we mean…ALWAYS…be painted in the most glowing of colors. You will always be referred to and mentioned with the utmost love and respect. It is because of you, and your unselfishly loving act, that we are where we are today. Because of you, we are able to fulfill our dream of becoming parents. For this we will always be eternally grateful to you.
As you begin the next journey in your life, we wish you nothing but the best. You will always be in our thoughts and prayers. We pray that God takes care of you and those close to you.
With Love and Respect,
Roy and Kristie