Dear Expectant Mother,
We don’t know how you feel or what you are going through, but when we think of you, we are filled with love and gratitude. We care about you and your baby.
We have always wanted more children. We have one son, Becket (we also call him Kit), who is four and have suffered several miscarriages. Although it has been hard to realize that we cannot have more children, it has caused us to grow closer as a couple. Your child would be important in our family and would complete our family. Your baby is precious and we will take good care of him or her.
Your baby will also get lots of love from us as parents. Our house is full of hugs and affection. We have jobs that let us provide for our family, but also prioritize family time. Your child will have his or her own room and lots of toys! We live on a farm, so playing outside is really fun, from the treehouse, to the playset to the garden. We have lots of family around us in our warm, extended family.
Your baby can expect an excited older brother who loves babies. He asks us about a brother or sister quite a bit. His cousins all have siblings and he loves playing with them. He is careful when he plays with his baby cousin and is always looking out for her. He holds her hand when she walks near the street to make sure she stays on the sidewalk. He would be a good big brother.
We would like to have a relationship with you. What that looks like is up to you. Your child would grow up always knowing about you. Since we don’t know you yet, we don’t know what this will be like, but we would welcome getting to know you and visits. Brenna has a friend who was adopted and was able to visit her birth mother every summer and stay in touch and it was a good relationship for everyone. Your child will always know about you and your choice.
We don’t know you yet, but we think you are strong and we admire you for considering adoption for your baby. Your baby will always know your love just as he or she would know ours.
Bob & Brenna