Dear Expectant Mother,
It’s so hard to say what I want to say without falling into
clichés, yet they all seem so fitting. Of course, I could never imagine
what you’re going through as you contemplate this choice. I can only try to
think of times in my life where I’ve been faced with life-altering
decisions. Fear, uncertainty, anxiety. I’ve felt those emotions
swirling as I contemplated the gravity of a decision. I can only hope
that it brings you some comfort as you go through this difficult time knowing
that if your decision is to choose me to raise your child, your choice will
lead to joy for so many people. I hope you can close your eyes and imagine the
love your child will be showered with and the happiness that so many people
will feel to receive this incredible gift that you are creating.
When I think about adopting, I am filled with a profound
sense of wonder. The universe has an amazing way of putting broken pieces
together, creating a mosaic even more beautiful than if things had never broken
in the first place. I have always been drawn to the beauty of mosaics,
even when I was young and hadn’t yet experienced the first big breaks in my
world. But every setback and heartbreak that I’ve experienced has allowed
me to grow and learn and build the beautiful mosaic of my life. Although
my life is by no means perfect, it is filled with laughter and happiness and I
cannot wait to share that with another child. I look forward to family
vacations and neighborhood barbecues and trips to the beach and learning to swim
and reading stories and singing songs and all of the amazing and wonderful
things life has for us.
I will be a single mom and I hope that does not scare
you. While I do hope to find a partner in life one day, I will never
again sacrifice myself for a relationship. Having been through a difficult
marriage and a painful divorce, I feel more confident in myself than I ever did
when I was younger. I feel totally capable of being both mother and
father to a child, and I am lucky to have many supportive friends and family
members so I will not be truly on my own and neither will your child. I
have reached a point in my life where I have an abundance of everything except
children, and I look forward to sharing my life and my heart with your baby.
So I will end with one more cliché (so trite, but so true):
trust your gut. All of the mistakes I’ve made in my life were when I’ve
ignored my gut instinct. The gut is the perfect blend of your heart and
your head. Trust yourself to know the right path for you and your baby.
And if your gut leads you to choose me to raise your child, I hope you will
find peace knowing that you’ve created a precious new addition to the mosaic of
my life. You have my utmost respect as you go through this process.
Thank you for considering me. I am truly humbled when
I think of what an honor it would be to love and raise your child.