Dear Expectant Mom,
First of all we want to thank you and tell you how grateful we are that you found us. We know this is one of the hardest decisions you will make in life and we don't take that for granted. Your decision is brave and it's amazing that you are thinking of your child's future first. We hope to meet you someday soon but for now, we’d love to share a little bit about ourselves so you can get to know us better.
We met on Halloween (which is now our favorite holiday) in 2014 while Heather was still living in California and Buddy was on the tail end of a business trip. After our first official “date” Buddy had to go home to Oregon. When he left we stayed in constant contact, dated long distance for a year and took frequent trips back and forth. We knew we wanted to be together and after deciding it would be a better place to raise a family, Heather moved to Oregon the following October. We got engaged two years later and were married in September of 2017. What was most important to us was that both families could celebrate with us and that Buddy’s 93-year-old grandmother could attend the wedding. So we got married in Buddy's parent’s backyard in California.
Heather has always wanted children. As soon as she was old enough, she began babysitting and volunteering in her church’s nursery. Her dad even helped her create babysitting business cards (which she has saved to this day)! She grew up with two older brothers, one biological and one adopted. Her parents always talked about adoption openly with the family. As an adult, her adopted brother formed a close relationship with his birth mother and he now has an even larger extended family that lives in Kansas. It’s because of him and her experience growing up with an adopted sibling, that we know just how special adoption is. We have always talked about adoption and wanting to grow our family this way and we are so excited for what the future holds.
Buddy is an avid outdoorsman, so the first thing he’s looking forward to is family trips, camping in the summers, & skiing in the winters. We are lucky to live in a place where you can go in any direction and find something beautiful to experience and it’s because of him we have experienced so much already. Buddy’s patience and his ability to weigh big life decisions and carefully plan for life’s ups and downs make him a great life partner and will make him a fantastic father. His thirst for knowledge and ways to become a better person have always impressed me. He taught himself carpentry and does all of the house repairs. He learned how to fly a helicopter and became a licensed commercial helicopter pilot just because he had always wanted to. In his spare time he’s always watching how-to videos and can figure out how to do just about anything.
We are lucky to have a big group of close friends here in Oregon that all have young children and can’t wait for us to have a family too. We’re always planning group getaways; a cabin in the mountains, or big summer campouts. We often ride bikes to each other's houses for barbecues or when it’s cold out we enjoy cozy dinners inside and play games and sit and talk by the fireplace.
We plan on teaching your child everything we believe is important in life. How to love themselves and how to treat others. The importance of patience, kindness, and compassion. To follow their hearts and their dreams and know that they can accomplish whatever it is they want to in life, as long as they are willing to put in the hard work. There is so much we want to explore and experience and we can’t wait to do it as a family. We are so happy you are reading this letter because it means so much to us to grow our family through adoption. We hope that it gave you a good peek into our everyday lives and who we are as individuals. We can’t wait to begin our family and share our lives and love.
Buddy & Heather