FAQ – Is This For You?
Is Adoption Right For You?
Frequently Asked Questions Women Ask When
Considering Putting Their Baby Up For Adoption…
Keep an open mind as you consider adoption. Below are the top 10 most frequently asked questions that women who are facing an unplanned pregnancy are asking about adoption.
You’ll want to make an informed decision about giving your baby up for adoption; not one based on fears, fantasies or dreams.
QUESTION: Is someone going to want my baby?
ANSWER: YES!
The Adoptive Couple is going to think that you are amazing woman and of course they’re going to love your child as well.
Contact us today and we will put together the information that you need to be able to tell your family you are choosing adoption.
QUESTION: Can I be involved in choosing the family for my baby?
ANSWER: YES!
You choose your Adoptive Couple if you want to. Many mothers do. You can also spend time with them to get to know them. Many Birth Parents meet for dinner, go to doctor visits together, talk on the telephone and/or write to each other. You can be the one to hand the baby to them at the hospital. Or, you can make your choice without meeting them. Open adoption allows you to decide how open or private you want your relationship to be with the family you choose.
Contact us today and we will put together the information that you need to be able to tell your family you are choosing adoption.
QUESTION: How will I know my baby is with a good family?
ANSWER: You will know that your baby is with a good adopting family because you can choose them, meet them and get to know them.
Even if you prefer not to have much contact, your couple will be thoroughly evaluated in an adoption home-study done by the state they live in.
This includes assessments of their marital stability, financial situation, lifestyle, and medical history. Then fingerprints will be taken to verify there is no record of criminal activity or child abuse. Their home will also be inspected by a social worker to ensure it is a safe environment for a child. We also provide education on adoption and parenting for them.
After all of these requirements are met, the family may go before the adoption judge and finally be declared a permanent family.
Contact us today and we will put together the information that you need to be able to tell your family you are choosing adoption.
QUESTION: Will I be able to get updates on the baby from the Adoptive Parents?
ANSWER: YES!
Historically most of our Adoptive Couples are open to providing pictures, letters and emails to you. Many Birthparents receive letters and photos from the adoptive parents on an ongoing basis, some just periodically. Others have phone conversations and a few actually visit one another.
It is very important to make an adoption plan that is comfortable for both you and the adoptive parents. It is important to choose parents whose ideas about ongoing contact are similar to your own. Sometimes adopting couples are initially fearful about continued contact, but your Adoption Advisor can help them with this and help you make a plan that works for everyone.
Contact us today and we will put together the information that you need to be able to tell your family you are choosing adoption.
QUESTION: How do I plan a successful adoption?
ANSWER:
What do you want for your baby? What type of lifestyle? What kind of parents, family life and home do you want for your child?
Contact us today and we will put together the information that you need to be able to tell your family you are choosing adoption.
QUESTION: Why should I put my baby up for adoption instead of considering abortion?
ANSWER: You don’t want to live the rest of your life knowing you aborted your child.
Studies show that abortion can (and usually does) cause mental instability to mothers including depression, anxiety and other mental disorders. If you choose to abort your pregnancy, you will have to live with this decision and its implications for the rest of your life.
What do you want for your child? Does your child deserve a two-parent home with a loving family environment? Does your child deserve financial stability, an education and a future? Your child deserves to have all of their needs taken care of.
Contact us today and we will put together the information that you need to be able to tell your family you are choosing adoption.
QUESTION: How do I tell my family?
ANSWER: It is very important for you to get educated on adoption BEFORE you tell your family.
Then you will know how to talk to your family about adoption so they will feel good about your decision.
An adoption advisor is available to speak with your family to help explain the adoption process so they feel comfortable with your decision. Ultimately the final decision is yours.
Contact us today and we will put together the information that you need to be able to tell your family you are choosing adoption.
QUESTION: Does the birth father have any rights?
ANSWER: Whether or not the father has rights depends on the State you live in.
We have lawyers for every state to assist you with legal services.
A Birthfather may be hesitant about adoption at first, but then realizes that he may not have the time or resources to parent the child. Usually he just needs reassurance that he will not be shut out of the adoption process and can be involved if he chooses.
An adoption advisor is available to speak with him to help guide him through the adoption process.
Contact us today and we will put together the information that you need to be able to tell your family you are choosing adoption.
QUESTION: Is there counseling for me and my other children after the birth?
ANSWER: YES!
An adoption advisor is available to speak with you, your children and your family members to help explain the adoption process and feel comfortable with your decision.
It is common for your other children between 8 and 12 years old to question your decision and feel uncomfortable and insecure in their family. We can help you with explaining your situation and make them feel secure with your decision. Ultimately the final decision is yours.
Contact us today and we will put together the information that you need to be able to tell your family you are choosing adoption.
QUESTION: What about my medical bills and other expenses while I am pregnant?
ANSWER:
If you need financial assistance, we have adoptive families who can help with your living expenses or other costs that are related to the pregnancy (as allowed by state law). We will help you apply for any public assistance or insurance benefits to which you are entitled during your pregnancy. The adoption judge will review what expenses are paid to you before the adoption is finalized so we must keep careful records. We will help you to comply with the adoption laws.
Contact us today and we will put together the information that you need to be able to tell your family you are choosing adoption.
QUESTION: What if I need housing while I’m pregnant?
ANSWER: We can help secure appropriate housing.
If you are in need of safe and secure housing, Courageous Choice can help secure it for you, as allowed by state law.
Contact us today and we will put together the information that you need to be able to tell your family you are choosing adoption.
QUESTION: If I do make an adoption plan, will the sad feelings ever go away?
ANSWER: YES!
There may always be a bit of sadness in your heart that circumstances for you were not different. Amy an eighteen year old Birthmother once said “Any remorse or sadness that I once felt, was replaced with the joy, warmth, love, security, and financial stability that my adoptive couple will provide for my child. I can now plan to reorganize my life and create a future for myself. I could not have accomplished this without the support and concern of the people at Adoption Network. “
Contact us today and we will put together the information that you need to be able to tell your family you are choosing adoption.
QUESTION: If I choose adoption, when is my decision final?
ANSWER: Under California law, your relinquishment documents are signed once you have given birth and are medically discharged from the hospital.
It is a good idea to think about your plans as early in your pregnancy as possible, especially if you would like to get to know a family and want the baby to go home with them from the hospital. Normally, irrevocable relinquishments are taken 48-72 hours after the birth of the child with an agency adoption.
Contact us today and we will put together the information that you need to be able to tell your family you are choosing adoption.
Adoption is an unselfish gift of love from you to your child.
Adoption is a responsible and courageous decision considered by women who want the best possible life for their babies. However, you may be experiencing many emotional ups and downs and you may have many questions about adoption. We want to help answer those questions and pave a smooth course for you. Call us today at 1-866-619-3314.