Dear Expectant Mother,
Thank you for considering us as future parents for your child. We promise we will do everything we can to give your child the best care and promise we will love your child unconditionally. We have always believed that adoption was the path that we would take to build our family. We don’t think that family is based on biology but instead is made from a strong bond and commitment between people. We have many in our lives who we consider our family—relatives, friends, and even our pets! You will also be an extended part of our family. Your child will know about you from the first day we meet them. We will tell your child about the immense love that you have for them, and how lucky they are to have a birth mom who was selfless and willing to give us such an incredible gift. If there is anything that you would like us to share with your child (music, a letter, photos, a favorite childhood toy or blanket) we hope you would allow us to share that with them, so they are always reminded of you.
To tell you a little bit about us, we met each other 5 years ago during our medical residency training— we like to say that during the stress of medical training, you really get to see people’s true colors. We found each other to be dependable, kind, and optimistic work colleagues, even in periods of extreme stress. Over time this grew into a more serious relationship. We have been together for almost 4 years now and joke that we are lucky because it feels like we get to be with our best friend every day. We laugh, explore, grow, cook, and have so much fun together. We are thankful for the intense time that medical school and residency brought, as we grew as people, but we are now at a point in our lives where life can slow down and we can begin to build our life outside of work.
Your child will grow up surrounded by the beauty of the mountains, desert, and ocean. We enjoy weekend trips exploring these surrounding areas with our dog Ollie and can’t wait for your child to join us on these adventures. As your child gets older (and even when they are younger!) we would like to travel and take them to new places to experience different cultures and diversity of people. We will nurture and support their own interests and passions as they grow and will provide your child with a safe environment where they can be a child-to be free to play, create, make mistakes, and feel protected. Kindness and doing good are very important life lessons that we will teach your child.
Many of our colleagues and family have been blessed by the beauty of adoption. Ash’s Aunt Annie placed a child for adoption who was raised by a wonderful family in Washington with two siblings that were also adopted. Ash always remembers how proud her Aunt Annie was of her daughter (she went to college and was a Division 1 athlete!). Aunt Annie kept in touch with her daughter and exchanged holiday cards every year. She even went to her daughter’s wedding a few years ago! It has been a very positive interaction to see.
Although we cannot begin to imagine how you are feeling, we want to acknowledge what an incredible gift you would be giving us and how incredibly happy you would make us. Please let us know if there is anything specific you would like to know about us— we genuinely are open books! We look forward to our future journey together.
All the best,
Christina & Ash