We are beyond thankful to you for giving us this treasured opportunity to raise your child. We understand that selecting a couple is an exceedingly difficult decision that awakes a number of emotions. We know you must be thinking about what type of life your child will have with us and what type of parents we will be. Here is our promise to you:
We promise to nurture and love your child unconditionally for all our lives. Some families barely hug each other or say the phrase, “I love you,” to their siblings or parents. They maintain a certain distance as they grow through life. We are the exact opposite. When we see our families for visits we go around hugging each other, saying “I’ve missed you” and departing with “I love you.” We believe in expressing emotion and connecting with each other as a family.
Yes, we can be emotional. Wes cried out of happiness so many times at our wedding that Kevin had to step in to welcome our guests to the event because Wes couldn’t get through the speech. And Kevin cries whenever a sad movie or show comes on TV even after Wes reminds him that the characters aren’t real. So, we do not try to hide our emotions, but rather embrace them. We will do the same with your child as we love, cry, and laugh throughout life as a family.
We promise to provide your child with a life of comfort and opportunity. We have worked hard to create a loving home in a welcoming neighborhood surrounded by caring and thoughtful people. Your child will be able to enjoy life with bicycle rides, tennis matches, and swim meets. We will jump whole-heartedly into supporting them in sports, theatre, or music – whichever passion they discover they have. They will have plenty of time to play with other kids and enjoy childhood fun. We will also make sure they are given a top education at one of the many great schools located in our community. We know how education can help create opportunity and want your child to be able to choose whatever path makes them happy and live their life to the fullest.
We also want to provide your child a life of experiences – not just things. We want our kids to see the world, to see different cultures to embrace the diversity in life that makes where we live and our world so wonderful. We can’t wait to begin traveling as a family – everything from boogie boarding at the beach to trips around the world filled with trying dishes we cannot properly pronounce. Getting the opportunity to give these experiences we so cherished growing up to another child will be so fulfilling.
We promise to be there. We would not go through this adoption process if we were not 100% certain that we will make amazing parents and create a loving family. We know that means commitment. We are fully committed to the late-night bottle feedings, the carpools to and from activities, and the presence at events. Yes, we work but we have chosen jobs that provide us with the flexibility and predictability so that we can be present in your child’s life- see their first steps, hear their first word, and see their cap thrown for the first graduation. We are fortunate to have a support network of family and friends who have already offered and made clear they will help us when help is needed. We are not so naïve as to think we can do it all alone. We have heard the phrase, “it takes a village to raise a kid,” and we with the loving support of others, will make sure we are there and ready for your child throughout their life.
We are both happy with our careers that allow us to have a great work-life balance so that we can create a family and be there for sports games, recitals, or other moments of life. But when writing this paragraph, we cannot help but wish we had become writers or poets. We know that trying to capture how much we will love and support your child in words is very difficult. Let us just conclude by saying that we hope beyond hope that you will choose us and that we will give your child a family that is loving and caring without a doubt.