Dearest Expectant Mother,
It is with gratitude and admiration that I write you this letter and hope my story that follows will provide you peace and comfort as you make this love-filled decision.
Born and raised in Missouri, I am a single mother of an adopted daughter living in Wisconsin. Although I’ve moved all over the country, those Midwestern values have always remained intact. Life is best when I am enjoying time with my daughter, Zara, playing a bit of golf, spending a quiet afternoon at home curled up watching a movie or reading a book, traveling to a beautiful vacation spot with my best friend, spending holidays with my family or watching my beloved St. Louis Cardinals hopefully win the World Series!
Growing up, I always knew I wanted to be a mother and prayed it would happen at the right time. When my darling niece, Arianna, was born nine years ago, it was the first time I truly felt like a mother. I so looked forward to my visits to Washington to see her, play with her and be a constant presence in her life from afar as my aunts and uncles were for me.
As life went on and the years were passing by, the desire to be a mother grew stronger, but how it would happen was becoming a mystery. Being a single mother was not the “dream” I envisioned for myself, but not being a mother at all was not a life I could accept. My mantra became: “If Mom could do it under the worst of circumstances, I could under the best of circumstances” and so began my adoption journey.
My daughter was born in 2017. She was in my arms when she was seven hours old. We have been inseparable ever since. It has been the joy of my life to watch her grow, laugh, and learn about the world around her. While she is absorbing everything, she also has so much to give. Her compassion and empathy at such a young age astound me. Her desire to care for me and others takes my breath away. It is for these reasons that I am embarking on this wonderful journey again…so Zara and her sibling may enjoy these experiences together, care for one another and navigate this world together.
I can’t imagine the struggle you are facing in making this decision, so I will simply say, if you choose our little family, please know that we will honor you, your child, and your decision every day in the way we love and care for your baby. I look forward to providing your baby every opportunity that was afforded to me and more, so he or she may enjoy a life of limitless wonder; caring less about the destination and more about the journey.
With Endless Respect,
Nina & Zara