Thank you so much for taking the time to read this letter and hopefully look over our profile. We can’t imagine how difficult this choice may be for you to make for yourself and your child and are hopeful that you may feel that we are a good match for being a home that you might consider for your baby.
We promise to provide a loving, caring, and supportive home for your baby. A home that is accepting, open, and that allows space to talk things out and listen to what each family member has to say. We promise to encourage incorporation of your child’s heritage if it differs from ours or our experiences so that they feel supported in whatever way possible. We will promote your child’s continued growth and learning about themselves and the world around them, and help them find individuality. And we will help them find things that bring them joy and happiness in their lives as they grow up.
We will teach and raise your child in a way that you would want for them. We will teach them to be loving, accepting, and compassionate to themselves as well as to others. We will teach them to support differences and learn how to build healthy relationships with other people when they want to and how to set boundaries when needed. We will help them to understand and learn that though there may be things that are hard and challenging in life that those are often opportunities for us to learn, grow, and strengthen as a person. And they will know that those challenges might be similar to what you, as their birthmother, may have experienced with the hard and challenging decision you made for them.
If you choose us to be the parents of your child, we will be open and honest about your child’s adoption as they grow up. We will find age-appropriate ways to share this information as they get older, so it is in a way that they understand. We want them to feel that they are allowed to ask questions and talk about it if they want to. We will share whatever information that we know or are allowed to share. We want them to understand that this was a really hard choice for you as their birthmother to make and that you made it because you felt that it was the best choice for them. And that that really hard decision allowed us to have them in our lives when we weren’t able to have our own biological child, and how grateful we are for that.
Thank you again for your consideration of us as potential parents. We promise to be loving, caring, and compassionate parents, and that we will show your child that they are loved no matter what. We hope to have the chance to speak to or meet you in the future.
Thank you for your consideration,
Claire and Dustin