Dear Expectant Mother,
We want to begin this letter by expressing our sincerest gratitude to you for taking the time to read our words. This is an emotional journey and we want to recognize the selfless act of sacrifice that adoption is. Your courage in facing a devastatingly difficult decision is admirable and we want you to begin to see us as a part of your team, and to feel that you are not alone in this journey. We also want you to know that we have so much love to give and that if you choose us, we will make it our mission to pour love, experiences, acceptance, and joy into your child.
We are Colette and Josh. We grew up in the same city in Northern Indiana, went to junior high and high school together, and even dated during our senior year before heading off to college. We also went to the same university and stayed in touch during our college years. This time apart allowed us to grow, find ourselves without the influence of the other, and to focus on our education. Upon graduating from university, we rekindled our relationship and we were married in 2006.
The waves of life took us for a ride and in 2017 our daughter, Cecelia, was born. Our lives were flipped upside down in the most amazing way possible and we knew right away that we hoped for another child to join our family. Colette was adopted and has always wanted adoption to be a means of adding to our family and Josh has always supported adoption, so it was time to pursue this route.
Becoming parents has shifted our outlook to our children. We want our children to know that they are loved, valued and accepted just as they are. We don’t ever want them to feel uncomfortable bringing anything to us, so we work hard to model transparency, open communication, and acknowledgement. It is important to us that our children approach the world with an open mind and curiosity. We want to spark creativity and to encourage them to pursue activities that make them feel good. We have also worked diligently to incorporate Cecelia’s interests into our schedules, so that she feels included as a valuable member of the family. When we travel, we make note of nearby playgrounds and bike parks that we can visit. Teaching children about different cultures is a priority for us and we will continue to provide opportunities for them to learn about themselves, while getting to know people who are different than they are.
Your child would be an answered prayer and the missing puzzle piece to our family. Cecelia would become a doting big sister and would forever have your child’s best interest at heart. For a time, your child would become the center of our family as we figure out the new norms as a family of four. Then your child would begin to fit into the folds of our daily family life - trips to swim classes, playgrounds, time at the library, cousin time, and grocery pick up. It will be exciting to introduce your child to camping, hiking, boating, and vacations, as well as our other hobbies and adventures. Over time your child’s interests will be incorporated into our schedules to depict their value and importance in our family as we continue to strive to make them feel accepted and integral to our family unit.
Between us we have so many interests and dreams to pursue in this lifetime and adoption is just one of them. Colette loves a riveting story, all things musical, a heated competition, a beautifully composed photograph and exploring the whole world. Josh loves creative building, adventure seeking, exploring curiosities, friendly athletics, and the journey of accomplishment. The journey ahead is both exciting and terrifying, but family makes it all worth it. It is our hope that we could live up to your expectations for the family of your child.
Colette and Josh