Hello. We don't know the feelings you are processing right now. This is a significant crossroad, and we know you probably feel the weight of making decisions that will change your life. You are working to educate yourself about all the options while thinking about this new life, who probably was not a part of your plan A or even plan B. We just wanted to say thank you for exploring adoption during an overwhelming time in your life, and we deeply thank you for considering us to be the adoptive parents for your child.
We were drawn to adoption even when we were dating. Years later, we found out that we had fertility issues, which meant that adoption might be our only means of starting a family. We researched adoption entities looking for one that seemed to understand the support needed by the entire family unit – the biological parents, the adoptive parents and the child. We’re beyond grateful and excited for the opportunity to move forward on this journey!
If you choose us as adoptive parents, we will give your child every opportunity to have a bright future and to live an extraordinary life. We believe that everyone has their own unique gifts, and it is the role of parents to discover them, nurture them, and guide the child so they may decide how to use those gifts. Our goal is to be loving, steadfast parents who will help your child to flourish. More than anything, we will encourage your child to use their gifts to enrich the lives of other people. In our home, your child will find safety, love, and support. We promise to be there for them on the good days and the hard ones, to care for them through any sickness, to create an accepting and loving environment, and to help them achieve their personal goals.
We recognize that this is your child and your decision. No one can make this decision except you, and no one can make this decision for you. Please know that if you choose adoption and choose us to be your child’s adoptive parents, we do not want the moment that you relinquish your rights to be the end of your relationship with your child. We want them to know you and understand your story, but only if you are comfortable with that. We'd love to talk with you about your hopes for that relationship and what life could look like after the papers are signed.
More than anything, we hope that, whatever you choose to do, God will bless you more abundantly than you could even imagine. We want you to know that you are loved right now, at this moment. God sees you, and He hears you. We are praying for peace for you so that you can make the best decision for you and for your child, whatever that decision will be. If we are not part of that picture, we just want to thank you for taking the time to read this letter. If you would like more information about us, we are happy to talk to you. We are "open book" people, and we'd be delighted to do that.
Sending you so much love,
Robert & Rachel