We are Joe and Patricia. We were married on June 20, 2013 (or maybe it was June 21 or 22 or 23, neither one of us can ever remember the exact date…). We live in Connecticut with our dog, Soffio and cat, Pigpen. Joe is an intellectual property attorney and Patricia is a university professor in electrical engineering.
Okay, now that those formalities are out of the way, how should we proceed? This is a new experience for us. Neither one of us has had direct experience with the adoption process before now. Sure, we know people who adopted or were adopted, some close friends and extended family members, but we cannot claim to truly understand the feelings of anyone in the “adoption triangle” - the adopted child, the birth parents, and the adoptive parents. We do, however, understand that this decision-making process is intense for everyone involved. Please know that we are open to working through those complicated feelings with caring, compassion, and tolerance.
While we cannot fathom what you must be going through right now in deciding the future for your child, we want you to know that if you do select us, we will make sure that he or she is raised in a stable, caring environment, given every opportunity to succeed, and encouraged to pursue those opportunities to the best of his or her ability. We cannot provide too many specifics, because those specifics will depend on the circumstances and desires and needs of your child. But we can be specific about some things:
- We will raise your child in an environment that values education, both formal (in school) and informal (through travel, community engagement, etc.).
- We will encourage your child to develop a respectful and caring attitude toward all things by living in a home that values people, animals, self-sufficiency, do-it-yourself skills, and having the right possessions.
- We will insist that your child become a positive member of the community. While we don’t know what form this will take (will he or she join Scouts, or play a musical instrument or…?), we will do everything we can to help your child take advantage of their natural abilities and inclinations to find his or her calling.
We live in peace with ourselves and our community. We attend church regularly and are active members of our parish. Our friends are from all creeds and walks of life. We act our faith by volunteering our time and resources as needed to serve our community. We believe these are values and actions worth teaching and passing along. We excel in our careers, but we are married to each other, not our jobs.
As hard as we work, we play hard too. We love music, with Patricia accomplished at playing guitar. Joe is an avid amateur photographer with work in the National Geographic stock archives along with several books and magazines. Between us, we’ve traveled to or lived in all seven continents. We find joy on the road and in learning new cultures and peoples. We collect cookbooks and recipes and are not afraid to push our skills. We make our own pasta, grind our own flour, ferment our yogurt, and bake our own bread. We go to the beach. We read by candlelight and play games when the power goes out. We take the dog hiking in the snow and dance in a summer shower. We grow basil and geraniums in the windows of our house. Our cat cuddles up and purrs on cold nights. We use prisms to cast rainbows across the room. And when things get hard, we come together, knuckle down and work together to face the hard things.
Thank you for reading our letter and we hope to meet you. We welcome the opportunity to provide a loving home for your child.
Patricia and Joe