Dear Expectant Mother,
We want to first state how much we admire your courage for all you are doing for your baby and thank you for taking the time to read our letter. As an adoptee from South Korea, I (Andrew) always wanted to write to my birth mother to thank her for her love and courage through her pregnancy with me. As I will never have the opportunity, I want to write to you as a symbolic way to extend the love and gratitude I wish to send to her. She gave me life and the opportunity to be loved in more ways than I could have imagined. As you continue your journey, we want you to know you have our full support and are here for you as well as your baby.
Although we can never know what you are experiencing, we hope that by sharing a bit of our lives and stories with you, you can find comfort in having an option for your child to be raised with love, support and confidence as they grow. At our core is the belief that every individual should grow up with an unwavering encouragement to find their own identity. While we may not all have the same culture, we value and will seek resources to teach us what we don’t know. We will nurture your baby through our own family traditions as well as teaching them their own personal background allowing us to fully immerse ourselves and your baby in their own unique identity.
Your child’s future will be filled with love and support. Thanks to his adoptive family, Andrew’s own life was filled with the joy and love he always hoped his own birth mother wanted for him. Your baby will be encouraged to follow their passions and feel a sense of safety in knowing that their birth and adoptive families wish the best for them. The ability to share our collective stories with your baby will provide them the colors to confidently paint their own beautiful picture of what family really means.
I, Andrew, was born in Korea and raised in Pennsylvania with a large family. My favorite sport was gymnastics and I competed all the way through college while getting my degree in Biology. The most influential person in my life, my adoptive mother, passed away my senior year after Thanksgiving and it was one of the most difficult struggles and pain I have ever gone through. To this day, I continue to miss her but I know happiness and love because of her. I’m now a scientist working on cardiovascular treatments as it connects to her own illness. This is how I honor her memory as well as my birth mother’s gift of life. I strive to always be the best I can while acknowledging it is okay to miss them. My life continues and I continue to find new love in my life in spite of the sorrows of my past.
I, Justin, grew up in a family with two siblings and a large extended family. While my mother and father provided us with everything we could ever ask for, we were raised on the virtues of empathy and humility. I am honored to have learned so much from both of my parents. A bit of my father’s dedication and perseverance coupled with my mother’s curiosity and passion for life has shaped me into the man I am today.
Our family and life experiences have brought each of us together and how we have to come to you now. The family we create for your baby will be what we all make it. We want to build a connection with you throughout your adoption plan and your child’s life, but we also understand you may have boundaries when it comes to what we share with your child. We will fully respect and support your level of openness. Our family’s foundation has been built on honest communication, an open mind and compassion. This is the kind of relationship we will build with you and your baby as they grow. You will always be their mother and we wouldn’t have it any other way. Please know not only will your baby have our love and support but you will too.