Dear Expectant Mother,
First of all, thank you for even considering adoption for your baby. You are braver, stronger, and wiser than you could possibly know. We consider adoption to be the most loving and selfless choice a mother can make for her baby, and we do not take your decision to place your baby for adoption lightly. We feel so blessed and honored that you would consider entrusting your baby with our family.
We have been praying for you and your baby since we decided to adopt nearly eight years ago, and we want to share a part of Katherine's daily devotional that came up the day we made the decision to start the application process. It was titled "Give my child a sense of purpose," and the verse was 2 Timothy 1:9 "who saved us and called us to a holy calling, not because of our works but because of his own purpose and grace, which he gave us in Christ Jesus before the ages began." So, thank you for choosing life for your baby; she already has a godly and holy purpose that God has entrusted her with to fulfill. We also believe that adoption is a purpose we have been tasked with as a couple.
I (Katherine) always knew I was adopted and my parents always made sure that I knew that my birth mom made the difficult decision to place me for adoption out of overwhelming love for me. Therefore, adoption has always been on my heart and something I felt called to do with my future husband. Thankfully, I married someone, who after hearing my story and seeing it unfold firsthand, also felt called to adopt. We made the decision for me to find my birth mom after the birth of our first son. The second I held him, looked into his eyes, and felt the overwhelming emotion of love and joy, I knew I was ready to meet my birth mom; and Arden agreed. I thought I understood how selfless a decision adoption was for my birth mom until that moment; nothing prepared me for that, and all of a sudden, I had so much more love, admiration, and respect for her.
Our life as a family is something that we are extremely proud of and grateful for. We have been married for 7 years, and we have two sons, ages 5 and 3. We also have two dogs that are great with the kids. The last missing puzzle piece is our baby girl; when we learned we were having a second boy, we both immediately looked at each other and said that this was God's way of telling us that we would adopt a girl one day to complete our family instead of trying again. Our boys are so excited to have a little sister; the younger one even started sleeping in his brother's room so his "baby" could have his crib. He even said he will let her sleep with his Spider-man... that's true love, right there. Watching our boys' relationship grow and seeing them bond has been our greatest joy as parents.
Arden is a Physician Assistant and works as a provider at a local Urgent Care clinic; his schedule is 12-15 shifts per month, so he is home often during the week and on weekends. Katherine is a Registered Nurse, but has been a stay-at-home mom since March 2020. We are currently working together to try to launch a new medical concierge business, so we are praying that we can get that running soon, which would allow Arden to either leave his current position at Urgent Care or at least only work 2-4 shifts per month. This will allow Katherine to remain at home, so we would both have more time with our family and at home. We also live in the same subdivision as Katherine's parents, who help us a lot with the kids. They love picking them up from school a few times per week, and having Friday night sleepovers.
If you choose us to be the parents of your baby, she will be loved and supported unconditionally. We will always tell her how loved she is by you, and that she comes from a brave, strong, and loving birth mom. She will be raised with strong moral and family values; we will teach her the importance of having good character, and lead by example. She will get an exemplary education, and be exposed to different activities such as playground sports, dancing, gymnastics and art (or anything she is interested in trying). She will live in a neighborhood full of kids to play with, plenty of space to run around and explore, and most of all will be part of a close family who puts God first and loves with all of their heart.
Thinking of you always,
Arden & Katherine