Dear Expectant Mother,
Thank you for taking the time to read our letter. We’re sure this process is daunting and you’re filled with inner turmoil and flooded with emotions in a manner that we may not fully understand. However, if you have decided that it’s in the best interests of you and your child to find them a caring family that will love them unconditionally and treat them as their own, we are grateful and count ourselves as blessed that you are considering our family.
We are a family of three as we already have a biological daughter who is five years old, named Daniella “Dani”. Adoption is not an alternative for us, and as far back as when we first met, we both agreed that adoption was something we wanted to pursue. Our family has a lot of love to give and we want to provide a good home to a child. Our daughter appears to have inherited the same desire. Having discussed our plan to adopt with her, she has been giddy with excitement. She can’t wait to have a sister or a brother, asks about it daily, and often imagines out loud all the fun things she’ll do with her new sibling. We often wonder who is more motivated?!?!
To give you an idea of what our lives are like, we work from home with the exception of short occasional business trips (granted the business trips have stopped during COVID). We are part owners of a college and Josh oversees the college's management part-time, from home. Shadi also works part-time as an interior designer which she is phasing out as the college has become a solid source of financial support.
COVID did not change our lifestyle too much, except that Dani is now tutored at home three days a week rather than attending school. Education is important to us. We want to give our children the tools to choose any path they want and to succeed. Dani is a social butterfly in every sense of the term, and now that she doesn’t get to see her friends at school due to COVID, we try to fill the void as much as we can with lots of family activities. There is a park nearby where we all run around and play together on the jungle gym and swings, at home we do puzzles, take our places in her imaginary jaguar family (this requires a lot of roaring, crawling on our knees and sneak attacks), have lots of movie nights, and visit Grandma and Grandpa for BBQs.
We are dog people…Dachshund people to be specific, as we find them to be expert cuddlers. We are currently without, as our last Dachshund passed away last summer at the age of 19. We plan to surprise Dani with a puppy for Christmas, so shhh!
We definitely go all out for the holidays. We are like the Griswolds during Christmas, without the chaos. We even go out of our way to travel to Europe for their famous Christmas markets from time to time (it's hard to beat all the sights, sounds, giant warm pretzels, bratwurst, and hot chocolate). We all dress up for Halloween, have huge Thanksgiving dinners, and pay homage to the Easter Bunny. But the biggest “holiday” of all is Dani’s birthday and we go all out with bouncy houses, face painting, balloon animals, lots of decorations and food. It’s almost as if we don’t have a choice, Pinterest makes us do it! All of our children will get the same treatment, and we can’t wait to have an additional birthday party to celebrate every year.
I hope this helps you envision your child in our family. Our family is our life and we can’t wait for it to grow.
Again, we can’t fully understand your position and the decision you are faced with, but we have family who has walked a similar path. Josh’s sister decided to place one of her children with an adoptive family 23 years ago. Her biggest regret was not being allowed to meet with the adoptive family or being given updates to know if she made a good decision for the child. At the time, open adoptions were not common. Please know that we will be open with your child about their adoption, about you, and about your desire for them to have a wonderful life. We look forward to speaking with you and discussing how best to share their life with you.
Thank you for your consideration,
Josh & Shadi