Dear Expectant Mother,
Like you, we have gone through periods in our lives when things have not gone as expected. Your decision to give birth to your baby and make an adoption plan is the most selfless, loving, courageous choice one can imagine. You are not only choosing life, you are fulfilling the hopes and dreams of people who are unable to grow families without adoption. You are making the world a better place.
Our names are Tara and Jeff. We met in college and have been married for eleven years. Being parents is something we dreamed about, even before our wedding. Our path to becoming parents was not a straight line. We went through two years of unsuccessful IVF cycles before making the choice to pursue adoption. We can undoubtedly say that was the best decision we have made as a couple. We welcomed our daughter Samantha through adoption as well as two more daughters, Gwendolyn and Josephine, through IVF. We recently found ourselves at a similar crossroads. We tried IVF again and were unsuccessful in our last three tries. We’ve closed the book on having children biologically and are solely focused on completing our family through adoption.
We promise your baby will be cherished and loved in our family. We love all three of our daughters with no thought as to how they came into our lives. We’d be thrilled to add a boy to our family. A boy would enrich our family experiences and perspectives while enabling him to make his own unique impact on our family. While we all want to be unique, we also want to fit in. As he grows up, he will understand he has an older sister who is adopted, too.
Samantha is seven and loves learning about space. She is fascinated by the moon, planets, and stars, and we hope she one day reaches her goal of traveling to space. Gwendolyn is six, and her ideal day would be full of arts and crafts, and probably eating watermelon. The girls are only seven months apart and are both in first grade. They truly are each other’s best friend. Josephine is two and has been such a joyful addition to our family. She is happiest with her sisters while still being fiercely independent.
Adoption is discussed openly in our home. Samantha is proud to be adopted and enjoys sharing this fact with others. We understand those sentiments may evolve as Samantha grows, but we are committed to providing love and guidance throughout her life, as we would be with your baby. Samantha’s birth mom, Kim, is mentioned around our home with love and admiration.
Now, onto us! Tara has a warm heart and a knack for taking care of others. Transitioning from a full-time job to her ultimate goal of being a mother is fulfilling and her proudest accomplishment. Jeff has accomplished several professional feats in his career in finance, and his curiosity and constant desire to learn will undoubtedly rub off on your child. Education is very important to both of us, and we will do whatever it takes to provide your child with the best opportunities life has to offer. Jeff is devoted to his wife and family and loves his sports teams – especially The University of Notre Dame. While he’s learned a lot about putting in ponytails and the Disney princesses, he, and Tara too, are really excited to welcome a boy into their family. The biggest driver might be the three older brothers Tara grew up with, and the strong bond she still has with all of them.
We have very close relationships with our families and have the support and love of four grandparents, more than a few aunts and uncles, and seven cousins in our extended family. Both of us share a tight-knit group of friends who, through prayer and support, are pulling for our chances of expanding our family.
We would be honored to welcome your child to our family and to help fulfill the dreams you hold for him. Please know that you would be fulfilling our dreams as well. Our prayers include you and your baby every day. We are so very grateful that you are making the courageous decision to bless a family with the gift of your precious baby.
Tara and Jeff