Dear Expectant Mother,
You are one of the strongest women we will ever meet. It takes someone very special to have the courage and love in your heart to do what you are doing. You are making the right choice; whatever you decide. We praise you and all women who have to make this difficult decision and know you are doing the best thing for you and your baby.
We are Carter, Kathryn, and Cameron. This will be our second adoption. It is with Cameron's Birth Mother's blessing that we would like to share his story with you. Cameron is two and half years old (summer 2020). His mother did everything she could during his pregnancy to give him the best opportunity in life. However, his biological father did not want to do the same. She looked to her family and they also were unable to help. At eight months old, she made the difficult choice to place Cameron for adoption. We were honored to be the family she chose. We were there within 24hrs. We ended up staying in her state for two weeks. The moment we first laid eyes on Cameron, we cried because we were so happy to have him, but also cried because of the difficult decision his mother had to make. She did not expect a great deal of contact with him as he grew. But during those two weeks, we took time to get to know her. She was a young lady barely out of high school. We agreed to open email contact and let it grow from there. She is now proudly considered part of our family as we all just clicked. We see her once a year or more if able and she enjoys video calls. We acknowledge how difficult this must be for you and will let you decide how much contact you would like with us.
We always knew we wanted at least two children. Kathryn has always had reproductive issues and we knew pregnancy was unlikely and would be difficult if we were able to conceive. After seven known miscarriages, the longest lasted three months, we knew that it was time to really look into adoption. We knew we wanted to adopt children one day. We took the miscarriages as a sign. We now look forward to our second adoption. It will be our last adoption for the next several years. Once our children become old enough to understand and can voice their opinions, we hope to become a foster family to give a safe loving home to those who need to know they are loved by us and others.
Our son, Cameron, knows he's adopted. We read stories and have pictures of his birth family that he has access to. He also gets to speak with his mother, whom we refer to as Mama K. She is equally excited for us to adopt again and has even been buying a few little gifts for Cameron and the next baby. Cameron has a big brother’s personality. He loves holding our friends' babies and helping take care of them. He plays "daddy" to his toys and puts them in the baby things we have out to get him used to the idea a baby is coming. He loves dinosaurs, the color yellow, cooking (real and pretend), gymnastics, and swimming. He will start soccer in Fall 2020 (pandemic pending). Cameron is a jack of all trades and a master of none. He is ahead of the learning curve for his age for his motor skills area. He describes himself as a "funny dinosaur" (his words when I asked him to describe himself).
Carter is a computer programmer who works from home. He enjoys video games and being outdoors. He has a very quiet demeanor and personality. He is extremely loyal to his family and cares about helping his friends.
Kathryn has an outgoing personality. Since the pandemic, she is a stay at home mom. She has dreams of creating her own business or getting her teaching degree once the pandemic has passed. Kathryn loves history and working with children. She has worked at several camps with various age groups of children. She has several close-knit friend groups who enjoy going out and exploring the world around them.
We love to travel as a family. We have been to 39 states so far, Canada, Mexico, the Bahamas, Ireland, Germany, England, and Amsterdam. We also enjoy outdoor activities like bike riding and hiking. We live close to a river and can bike down to see the boats or swim. We also live near several parks and playgrounds. We have 3 pets, 2 dogs and a cat, all named after Greek gods/goddesses. Kathryn’s sister lives in Alaska and Carter's family is close by within our state. We enjoy visiting with his family when we travel. There are a total of seven first cousins all but one under the age of seven years. Our friends are all having children and Cameron is among the oldest of the set. There are plenty of friends for your baby to grow up and play with.
Education is important to us as a family both in and out of school. We have plans to send our children to several camps across the country as they grow to experience the world around them. We are the type of family who takes random vacations and day trips. We enjoy going to museums and aquariums. We don't believe in hiding the truth if a question is asked but we do put things in child-appropriate terms. This goes for all things. We believe that we should teach them things instead of learning incorrect information or being afraid to ask. We want our children to never question our love and acceptance of their choices. We plan to raise our children in a gender-neutral environment. We will never tell them they can or can’t do something because it doesn’t fit their “gender roles”. For example, Cameron loves to dress-up, color his hair bright colors, and play with dolls but he also plays sports and loves monster trucks. We don’t encourage or discourage his pursuits we just play however he wants to that day.
Thank you for taking the time to read our letter. We wish you all the best in the world. Remember that you are strong and you are making the right decision, whatever your choice ends up being.
Carter, Kathryn, and Cameron.