How do you begin a letter to someone you’ve never met whose brave decision might change your lives forever? Regardless of how this began for you, we believe that unless we had placed a child for adoption, we could never really understand how you must be feeling. The things that we can say with absolute certainty are that our love for your child will be limitless and we will do everything in our power to support them in all ways for our whole lives.
One of the interesting things about our family is our diﬀerences. Tristen is a rap-loving city girl from New York and Florida who comes from a somewhat challenging background and Joe is a sports enthusiast from Idaho with a mostly traditional background. What we have in common is what we think is important in the world and it is not based on your career, car, or house. Who you are as a person, how you treat someone who can do nothing to benefit you, or how delicately you can appreciate the world around you is what should be valued. Being compassionate, honest, and kind people is what we believe matters and that is what we would like to pass on to a child.
We know all too well how one decision can alter the course of your life, and for that reason, we don’t judge the decisions of others. Life has a funny way of not going according to plan.
When telling your child about you, it will always be positive and with reverence. Sacrificing for your child, and that comes in so many shapes and forms, is what all good parents do. How could we ever show gratitude for a gift that is invaluable? We are having a hard time putting into words exactly what we think our future relationship will be like. We know that we will be thinking of you every Mother’s Day, but on the flip side can understand why you may not necessarily want a reminder every year. The best way to describe it is we want to always be in touch, but will not put our own expectations on you.
Our hope for you, your child, and us is to feel at peace. The present and future can be unpredictable, but we hope that you can always find comfort in knowing your child will be in a loving home and will always be cherished.