Dear Expecting Mother,
This will be, quite possibly, the hardest decision you will ever have to make, but as you embark on this new journey of placing your child for adoption, please know that your consideration of our family is humbling. Our own three kiddos are excited to meet their new brother or sister and shower them with the love they deserve.
As a couple, we had a lot of fun and did a lot of traveling and spending time with friends and family before we decided to have kids a few years into our marriage. Since having Wally (5), our oldest, we have taken it upon ourselves to spend as much time with our children as possible. Time, we feel, is the greatest gift you can give to your children, so we maximize it. With the addition of Marcella (3) and Piper (1) our lives have gotten busier, crazier, quite a bit louder, and full of so much joy and laughter it is hard to put into words. We make a point to have dinner around the table every night where a short “Grace” sets the stage for our meals together. Time in the backyard racing around the apple tree or throwing a ball to our dog Daisy always makes a summer night full of special memories. Then, splashes in the tub, pajamas, toothbrushing, and many books consume the rest of our evenings together. Studies have shown that kids who are read to often, along with eating dinner around a table as a family, become well suited for a productive, joyful life. That’s our goal for all of our children!
A note from Zach: Stephanie is the best mother and wife. Her patience is something to be admired and her love for her children is second to none. She works hard at her job, but she makes being a mother her priority. One of her strongest assets in both her personal and professional lives is how good of a listener she is. She does not listen to respond, rather, she listens to learn more about the person. She is always coming up with ideas on how to make our lives more fun, exciting, and filled with laughter. She is tender, patient, and literally gets down on the ground with her children every chance she has. I’m so glad I found the greatest mother and wife on the planet as it makes it that much easier to raise awesome kids!
A note from Steph: Zach is the most dedicated father I could have ever hoped for. As an educator, he is consistently teaching our children life lessons. Even the simple things most adults take for granted. Zach’s patience radiates when he’s able to teach our children something new, even the simplest tasks that we often overlook as adults, Zach gets the kids excited about learning (washing hair, wiping up crumbs off the countertop, or even turning off the shower). When I ask them “How did you know how to do that?” they proudly respond “Daddy taught me”. Families from the community are often pulling me aside to inform me about how much of a positive influence he had been on their child as an educator. Bringing confidence to the surface, excelling in a subject they never realized they even liked, or even teaching them a life-task of how to tie a tie (both the girls and the boys!). As a lifelong learner, Zach is always reading books, articles, or listening to podcasts about becoming a better father, husband, and person. He’s the most enthusiastic person in most rooms and he’s not afraid to have tough conversations. Talking to our children about mistakes and why they are necessary for growth and understanding the world around us is something he finds essential.
Your child will be filled with so much love. We operate best amidst the chaos of having three young children and our jobs afford us the luxury to be home by mid-afternoon so we can enjoy time with them while we prepare dinner together in the kitchen. Baking cookies on the weekends is a favorite family activity as well! As a couple, we have explored our hearts and keep coming back to bringing diversity into our family and community. Enrichening our family's nucleus, while honoring what makes all of us different, is something we look forward to celebrating. Thus, our openness to children whose backgrounds may be different than our own. We look forward to exploring this further with you when we have the chance to meet! We do our best to model and instill values in our children that we adhere to and live by. Joy and love make the top of the list and we do our best to teach our kids to "Choose Kind" every chance we get. Respect and honesty are paramount and we take the time to discuss right from wrong with our kids often. Finally, hard work and humbleness are shown to our children as owners of two vacation rental properties, on top of our day jobs. Having financial security is important, but does not bring us our happiness - our experiences and memories do.
Since we met in 2010, we’ve lived in a few different cities. What brought us back “home” is the small-town friendliness of our community and it’s progressive nature. The community welcomes diversity and that’s what excited us about moving back in 2015. We have a great network of diverse families, including those with adopted minority children.
We cannot put into words how hopeful we are for the future of your child. We promise to do our best to instill the same love that you would. We would even go so far as to make it known that your love for your child was so deep that you made a necessary sacrifice to provide the future you envision for your child. We commit to you that we will give them every opportunity possible to live the life they love and deserve.
All our Love and Gratitude,
Zach & Steph