Dear Expectant Mother,
This is a time in all of our lives where life doesn’t look like how we may have planned it. And on top of everything else, I can only imagine the emotions that you are feeling right now by making this tough decision. I do know that this must be an incredibly difficult time for you and that the options that you are considering are scary. There are so many unknowns for you while making this decision. But I just want you to know that if you choose for me to love and raise your child, I will do so with an open heart, endless hugs and comfort, and unconditional love, support, and kindness.
I grew up the youngest of five children in a small town in California. I spent my childhood raising animals on our ranch, playing sports, traveling with my parents and siblings, and knowing how much I was loved by my family and friends. Being the youngest, my oldest siblings (my oldest sister is 14 years older than me!) had children while I was still living at home. I spent so much time loving on my nieces and nephews and I knew in my heart that I was meant to be a momma. But before that was going to happen, I was determined to get a good education and start my career.
When I was five years old, my kindergarten teacher asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I told her that I wanted to be a U.S. Supreme Court Justice. And from that day on, I worked to become an attorney so that my dream could come true. I left home after high school and moved to Los Angeles to attend college. After graduating, I moved to Washington D.C. to attend law school. After learning a little more about myself and about my strengths, I realized that instead of becoming a judge, I felt much more comfortable working in a law firm on corporate finance deals. I spent the following years working long hours in law firms before deciding that I wanted a quieter and more fulfilling life. I moved to my current job doing finance law at a bank almost four years ago, and I am much happier and have so much time and energy to give to a family. However, because of all of those years spent focusing on my career, the time to have my own children naturally passed me by.
I have lived in a beach community now for several years. I spend the majority of my free time with my amazing friends whom I consider my family, as well as my four godchildren who I love dearly. My godchildren live about 10 minutes away and I spend at least one (if not more) afternoon/evenings with them every week. My friends (their parents) asked me to be the godmother of their first daughter, and once they realized how much I loved her and would be there and support her, they asked me to be the godmother of each of their children. They are currently 16 (goddaughter, Isabel, who just got her driver’s license!), 14 (goddaughter, Asher Rose), 11 (godson, Santiago), and almost 10 (goddaughter Marisol).
My friend group also means a great deal to me. Having gone to school in L.A. and in Washington D.C., I have been blessed with friends from all over the country and from all backgrounds. My friends are loving, supportive, and so much fun to be around. We travel together, barbecue together, take care of each other’s children, go to the beach together, and enjoy our diverse community together. I truly consider them my chosen family, and I love them dearly.
While my life is so filled with love and happiness, I am so looking forward to becoming a momma. I can’t wait to share all of my family traditions (like baking Danish breakfasts, opening up presents around the Christmas tree on Christmas Eve and finding stockings filled with goodies on Christmas morning, and traveling the world to enjoy and learn about all of the different cultures that are out there), and to give your child a life filled with love, adventure, and opportunities.
I thank you for considering me to raise your sweet child, and I hope you know that my heart is with you as you make this decision.