Dear Expectant Mother,
We cannot pretend to understand what you are feeling right now or ease the difficulty of your decision. But what we can do is honor you, your decision, and your bravery by making sure that the child that comes into our arms will be deeply loved, nurtured, and supported for the rest of their lives. It is such a strange situation that at this moment, what might feel like the most confusing event of your own life, could possibly turn into one of the most beautiful and joyous events of ours. We absolutely love being parents and being a family. We can’t wait to welcome a new member to join in the fun. We feel that we have been incredibly fortunate in our own lives, with family, community, and opportunities that we want to share with another soul. We have no expectations of our children, no idea of who and what they should be. We have had so many beautiful opportunities to find ourselves and our passions, and that is what we want to provide for our children; the space to feel safe, to feel loved, and the opportunities and open doors to grow to be who they want to be. We have been blessed to have found one another and be parents to our son and we have so much more love we want to share with another child.
Adopting our son has been the best decision we have ever made. We could not love him more, and we could not be more grateful and more respectful of his mother. We love that we are still in touch with her, that we were able to introduce her to our son this past summer, and that she can remain in our lives and in our son’s life in whatever way feels most comfortable and healthy for him. This is what we wish to have with you.
Our home is joyful. We eat well, we play hard, and are very grateful for the life we have created. We love to be outdoors, go to the beach, hike, swim, and travel. We grow a lot of fruits and vegetables in our yard and take a lot of pleasure in eating right off the trees and in picking our ingredients for dinner. We are thoughtful about our place in this world. At the moment our house is filled with toys, arts and crafts, and most certainly love and laughter.
Ed adopted our son by himself as a single man in 2017. His desire to be a father was stronger than any other. We were then introduced by a friend when our son was only 3 ½ months old. Now, almost four years later, we are married and Rob has officially also adopted our son. Our boy is a kind, loving, fun and creative human, a true bright light, and will be an incredibly loving older brother. We are two capable and loving dads and we have a tight-knit family that includes two aunts and uncles, six first cousins, five grandparents and a beautiful clan of close friends near and far who we consider to be part of our family. We love to cook, entertain and host our friends and family and our house is often the site of gatherings, dinners and slumber parties. We both work for ourselves in creative fields and so have flexible hours to be available for and with our children. We believe that all of us on this earth are one, and we will raise our children to believe the same. To be global citizens. Choosing a family for your child is an incredibly difficult thing to do, it is also such a remarkably beautiful and loving thing to do. Whatever you choose, we have so much respect for you and for the love that you have for your baby. We honor you and that love, and we thank you for considering us to be their family.