Dear Expectant Mother,
As I write this letter to you, I'm filled with so many emotions. I’m not even sure where to begin. But, here it goes! First, I can’t even begin to imagine the feelings you have and will continue to have as you consider placing your child for adoption. I consider you to be such a selfless, caring, and brave person for making the choice to put your baby’s needs at the forefront of your mind. I can’t imagine this has been easy by any means.
I’d like you to know how incredibly grateful I am to you. In making this decision, you have allowed me to fulfill my life-long dream of becoming a mom. I feel honored that you’re considering me to take on this incredible responsibility and hope that, by reading this letter, you find comfort in knowing that I will do anything and everything in my power to ensure that your little one is surrounded by lots of love and laughter and that they experience all the great joys and happiness of life while also feeling supported during any tough times.
Being a mom is something I have thought about since I was a little girl playing “house” with my sisters, cousins, and friends throughout my childhood. I am the oldest child in the family, so taking care of kids is something I’m a natural at. I started babysitting in middle school and continued enjoying being around kids! There is never a dull moment when you’re around children. At the end of any day that I’ve been around kids, I always find myself reflecting on my interactions with them. They always impressed me with their adult-like language, how they mimicked things they’ve seen or heard, and how excited they got to tell me a story or show me something they’re proud of. From the funny things they say to their excitement for the little things in life to watching them learn and grow…being a part of that fills my heart with joy. As I began my college career, I naturally chose to study elementary education and haven’t looked back since. I’ve been teaching at the elementary level and I’m very passionate about what I do. I was diagnosed with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) when I was in high school, and I began to realize that having a child of my own might be difficult, and I started to think that someday adoption might be my answer to becoming a mom. The desire to be a mom is so much stronger than getting married, and I don’t want to hold off on my dream any longer. I am financially secure, I have lots of support from my family and friends, a loving home to raise a child in, and I can provide your child with a life filled with love, security, and making memories.
My family and friends are very important to me, and so many of our days would be spent doing activities with those I love. Many of my friends have children, and I envision many play dates and backyard BBQ’s with all of the kids running around. I have 2 sisters who each have children of their own. We get together often for holidays and birthday celebrations, as well as for days by my mom’s backyard pool. I love taking my nieces and nephews to explore local children’s museums, parks, zoos, or gardens. I have very fond memories of our traditional Easter egg hunt competitions and exchanging gifts at Christmas as we sat around the table after breakfast. Several years ago I made a sign for my kitchen that reads, “The most special memories are made when gathered around the family table,” and I look forward to adding to those memories with my own children someday.
I feel fortunate to live in a wonderful community neighborhood in the suburbs, about 45 minutes outside of a large city. My neighbors are friendly, always waving, or taking time to talk when I go on a walk. There is an annual block party, and my yard backs up to a beautiful pond, which is frequented by many forms of wildlife. It is so peaceful and provides instant entertainment when the animals are around.
In raising a child, I will provide a passion for learning (that one is probably obvious since I am a teacher…haha!) and develop responsibility, independence, and respect for others. These ideals were instilled as important attributes by my dad, who sadly passed away due to cancer, and mom when I was growing up. I believe these are imperative to living a successful life. I’m very thankful to have had these life lessons and will continue to uphold them as I raise a child. “Character is how you live your life when no one is looking” is a favorite quote of mine, and it will be an overarching theme through my parenthood journey.
I feel like I could go on and on, but I certainly do not want to overwhelm you with too many details as you choose the best fit for your baby. Please know if you choose me, I am open to interacting and having more conversations. I envision many nights spent cuddled up with your precious child in my arms reading books and sharing stories about his/her birth mom, who made the most loving and selfless decision and put such trust in me that I am forever blessed.
With Gratitude Always,