Dear Expectant Mother,
As I write this letter to you, I'm filled with so many emotions. I'm not even sure where to begin. But, here it goes! First, I can't even begin to imagine the feelings you have and will continue to have as you consider placing your child for adoption. I consider you to be such a selfless, caring, and brave person for making the choice to put your baby's needs at the forefront of your mind. I can't imagine this has been easy by any means.
I'd like you to know how incredibly grateful I am to you. In making this decision, you have allowed me to fulfill my life-long dream of becoming a mom. I feel honored that you're considering me to take on this incredible responsibility and hope that by reading this letter you find comfort in knowing that I will do anything and everything in my power to ensure that your little one is surrounded by lots of love and laughter and that they experience all the great joys and happiness of life while also feeling supported during any tough times.
Being a mom is something I have thought about since I was a little girl playing "house" with my sisters, cousins, and friends throughout my childhood. I am the oldest on both sides of my family, so taking care of kids is something I've done for a long time. I started babysitting in middle school and continued even into adulthood, as I just can't get enough of being around kids! In high school, I was diagnosed with PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome), and I began to realize that having a child of my own might be difficult. Due to my love of kids and love of helping them, I started to think that someday I might want to adopt. As I began my college career, I naturally chose to study elementary education and haven't looked back since. I've been teaching at the elementary level for many years, and I'm very passionate about what I do. As I've gotten older and haven't gotten married, I began to think about adopting more seriously as it would mean the world to me to be able to become a mom.
My family and friends are very important to me, and so many of our days would be spent doing activities with those I love. Many of my friends have children, and I envision many play dates and backyard BBQ's with all of the kids running around. I have 2 sisters who each have children of their own. We get together often for holidays and birthday celebrations, as well as for days by my mom's backyard pool. I love taking my nieces and nephews to explore local children's museums, parks, zoos, or gardens. I have very fond memories of our traditional Easter egg hunt competitions and exchanging gifts at Christmas as we sat around the table after breakfast. Several years ago I made a sign for my kitchen that reads, "The most special memories are made when gathered around the family table," and I look forward to adding to those memories with my own children someday.
I feel fortunate to live in a wonderful community neighborhood in the suburbs, about 45 minutes outside of a large city. My neighbors are friendly, always waving, or taking time to talk when I go on a walk. There is an annual block party, and my yard backs up to a beautiful pond, which is frequented by many forms of wildlife. It is so peaceful and provides instant entertainment when the animals are around.
In raising a child, I will provide a passion for learning (that one is probably obvious since I am a teacher...haha!) and develop responsibility, independence, and respect for others. These ideals were instilled as important attributes by my dad, who sadly passed away due to cancer, and mom when I was growing up. I believe these are imperative to living a successful life. I'm very thankful to have had these life lessons and will continue to uphold them as I raise a child. "Character is how you live your life when no one is looking" is a favorite quote of mine, and it will be an overarching theme through my parenthood journey.
I feel like I could go on and on, but I certainly do not want to overwhelm you with too many details as you choose the best fit for your baby. Please know if you choose me, I am open to interacting and having more conversations. I envision many nights spent cuddled up with your precious child in my arms reading books and sharing stories about his/her birth mom, who made the most loving and selfless decision and put such trust in me that I am forever blessed.
With Gratitude Always,