Dear Expectant Mother,
We want to take a moment and first thank you for reading our letter. We are Gary and Laura and after going back and forth on how to start this letter, we decided to just write from our hearts. We hope after reading this you will have a good idea of who we are and what kind of life we will bring to your baby.
We are in no position to think we know what you are going through right now. We can only imagine the emotional roller coaster that you have been on since you started this journey. We have had some of the same as we have had multiple miscarriages and failed fertility cycles. But for the strength of our faith and our love for each other and our daughter, we feel led to adopting a child and giving him/her the love, support and community we experience as a family every day.
Allow us to tell you a little about our family. Our story started as a story book; we fell in love almost instantly and married a few years later. We were in our mid 30’s and each felt that we had found the other with whom we wished to build our lives. We call it our “second half.” I, Laura, have a daughter from a previous marriage named Brianna (Bree) and she is now a beautiful, smart and soulful, 12-year old. Gary has been Bree’s dad in every way. We would love the opportunity to raise a baby together and give Bree the gift of a sibling. Coming from families where we both have close siblings, we know that Bree will cherish the opportunity to grow with, teach and love a baby brother or sister.
We live in a beautiful community that is ideal for families. Our community has many parks, world-class schools, swimming pools and sports complexes. We are a very social family and have many friends with babies and small children right in our neighborhood. We often get together with our neighbors for block parties and birthdays. As a family we love to ride around in our golf cart, swim in our pool, ride bikes, and walk our sweet little dogs. Our two dogs, Knox and Chewy, are an important part of our family.
We love to travel and to visit with our large, extended families. One of our favorite traditions is holding a “Family Baking Championship” at the holidays where neighbors get to blindly judge each of our entries and the lucky winner is awarded bragging rights and the coveted Family Baking Championship Trophy (it comes as no surprise that Bree has soundly defeated the adults many times!). You can expect that your child will be surrounded by many aunts, uncles, cousins and friends and feel the love of a large, active and blended family. As a bi-racial couple, we have learned how to create an environment where everyone feels accepted, loved and a part of the family unit. We think this is a special and unique gift we can bring to your child’s life. We are not perfect and we don’t have it all figured out, but we have two forces that have remained as the cornerstone of our family - our faith in God and our love for each other.
Thank you for taking the time to learn more about our family. If you decide to make an adoption plan, we want you to know that we will respect your choices on the level of openness and contact you would like to have with your child. Above all, we promise to cherish your baby with everything we have and provide a life of love, safety, and opportunity. We are praying for you throughout your pregnancy and we hope that you may be at peace with the truly selfless and beautiful decision you are considering.
Gary, Laura, Bree, Chewy & Knox