Dear Expectant Mother,
Thank you for reading our letter and for considering us as potential adoptive parents. We can only imagine what a difficult decision adoption must be, and we are so grateful for your strength and bravery.
You’ll likely read in many letters that we could never understand what you’re experiencing. While this is true, we can empathize in that you may be afraid of this unknown journey, and we are as well. When we first got married in February of 2016, we assumed that we would quickly start having children, and thus we would start our own journey as a family. However, as time passed, it became clear that things were not going to go as we had planned. We have always known how much we want to be parents and have a family of our own, but we had never considered adoption and just trying to understand the process seemed so daunting.
Like you, we spent a great deal of time thinking about this process before moving forward. Ultimately, we came to the decision together that we would like to grow our family through adoption, and that we are prepared to face this difficult journey with you.
Our goal is to offer your child a loving, caring, safe, and stimulating environment in which they can thrive. But we are only human and not perfect. While we will do absolutely everything we can to be the best possible parents, we know we’ll make mistakes along the way. We are no more deserving of the chance to care for your child than anyone else, but given the opportunity, we promise that we’ll do our best each and every day.
Our marriage is rooted in trust and mutual respect, and we love each other for all our strengths and all our weaknesses. We believe our home and neighborhood offer a warm and welcoming environment, and we’ve spent time thinking about how a child of any race or background could feel at home with us. Our neighborhood is very diverse, and we are so excited to be able to share this and all of the things that we love to do, whether it’s relaxing at home, going on an adventure, or exploring a new city, with a child.
We’re close to our parents, who all live nearby and are excited to support our journey and prepared to embrace your child as their grandchild. We are also close with our four collective siblings (Sophie has an older sister and younger brother, and Bobby has two older sisters who together have seven children). Like all families, of course, we have challenges, but we’ve been able to maintain strong relationships. It is because we are both so lucky to come from tight-knit, caring families that we feel so strongly that we are prepared to undertake the challenge of parenthood, and will always do our best to instill the values on which we were raised in your child.
We would love to get to know you and learn about your hope and dreams for your child. We are so thankful for you, and hope that you can find the same feelings for us, imperfections and all.
Bobby & Sophie