Dear Expectant Mother,
We cannot begin to understand what you are going through right now. We hope that you are being well supported by everyone involved with this complex and emotional decision and process. We admire and respect the decision you are making by choosing to pursue adoption for your child.
We met in December 2012 and were married in December of 2015. We have worked very hard to establish and maintain a relationship that is based on open communication, honesty, respect, and humor. We try not to take life too seriously and do our best to keep a positive attitude during difficult times. When this is not possible, we rely on each other for support and understanding when times get tough. We hope to raise a child with these same values.
We are choosing to adopt simply because we are two fellas who love each other and medical science is not advanced enough to allow for us to create a kiddo ourselves.
Alex has worked in education for many years and has a degree in psychology. He is currently pursuing an education and career in IT. He is wonderful with children and will use all of his learned skills to be the best Papa he can be. He is planning on being a stay-at-home parent, ideally until your child starts Kindergarten. Brandon is a Registered Nurse who has the knowledge and skills to keep a child safe and to respond appropriately if and when accidents happen. Although he is not a pediatric nurse, Brandon spent many years working at Disneyland and has a lot of experience working with children. Together, we believe that we will be loving parents and will use our combined knowledge and experience to foster a nurturing home for your baby.
When it comes to raising a child, our intention is to provide a supportive environment based on open communication and respect. We firmly believe in the importance of reading to children, and plan to do so every day. We believe in the authoritative model of parenting; acting as role models and exhibiting the same behaviors we expect of the child. Our goal is to involve your child (as developmentally appropriate) in the development of rules and consequences, instead of relying on “because I said so.”
Thank you so very much for taking the time to read this letter. As we said before, we hope you are being supported during this complicated time. We have no way of understanding what you are feeling or going through. Although our experiences in this process are very different, we believe that our goals are the same: for every child to have a safe and loving home. We hope to be given the opportunity to provide that to your child. Thank you very much for your time and consideration.
Brandon and Alex