Dear Expectant Mother,
There is no greater love than to lay one’s life down for another. Should you decide that adoption is the right choice for you and your child, please know that we would be honored to share this journey with you. We will raise your child to know that you loved them and placed their life above your own.
Adoption has always been plan A for us and has never been a last resort. I, Erin, have known since I was a teenager that I would adopt in order to become a mother and felt at peace with my decision instantly. I told Jake when we became serious during our dating years and he did not bat an eye. We began praying and planning our adoption journey as soon as we were married.
Jake is a teacher and basketball coach and I work in healthcare. We are passionate about giving back and raising children to do the same. Jake teaches for the best school system in the state and coaches basketball; therefore your child will be spending a lot of Saturday mornings cheering on their dad’s team. Your child will always have a dog to play with in the back yard. They will spend a lot of afternoons at the nearby park and weekends at their grandparents’ farm, learning how to ride horses. Both grandparents have pools, where your child will learn how to swim and have cookouts. We will teach them how to ride a bike and tie their shoes. We will be their biggest fans and support system. Your child will always have everything they need and will be so incredibly loved.
We cannot wait to share our holiday traditions and create new ones. Every year your child will attend candle light service with their grandparents and spend Christmas Eve with Jake’s side of the family. Christmas Eve will also be spent baking cookies for Santa and eating a birthday cake for Jesus. Your child will wake up every Christmas morning with presents under the tree and a big breakfast before visiting Erin’s side of the family on their farm. Every Easter they will wake up early to attend Sunrise service and get ready for a huge Easter egg hunt with Erin’s side of the family. On Thanksgiving, before spending time with family, your child will help serve the homeless a Thanksgiving Day meal.
We have discussed adopting a child of a different race throughout our marriage. We live in an area that is very diverse and we are so excited to teach our child about their culture and heritage. Atlanta is a short drive away and there are lots of museums to also learn about different races/cultures/heritages. Our church and the schools that your child will attend are also very diverse. Our circle of family and friends is a very diverse group who are beginning to grow their families as well, so we look forward to having our kids growing up together. Erin’s sister-in-law is biracial and has shared with us how important it is to surround our child with strong, successful role models that look like them. She shares some great insight on how to discuss race with our child and how to teach them to love their beautiful skin and hair even though it may be different than their parents’. We have also begun a home library, collecting children’s books where the main characters are of color. Jake’s best friend is African American and has 3 children that your child will grow up with. Jake talks with his friend Jason often, and he has provided Jake with advice on how to parent and navigate through these times. Jason’s family will be in our lives and a mentor to our child, and to Jake and me as well.
Thank you for reading our story and for considering us as possible parents to your child. We would love to hear your story and join together with you to provide the life and love you dream for your child.
Erin and Jake