Dear Expectant Mother,
You are showing kindness to your unborn child by doing what you believe is right for him or her. It is that kindness that leads to creating a family for a stranger. You are smart and you have had spent countless hours making an informed decision through what we imagine are the most difficult of feelings and fears, a decision which will be the hardest decision of your life. You are important, one of the most important people in our lives. You are also the most important person to our future son or daughter. You are going through an unimaginable hardship that will grant us the happiness and love that we have been searching for, for so long. It takes courage, intelligence and power to make such a life changing decision. All of your decisions, feelings and difficulties have led to one of the most important decisions of ours, adoption. You are kind. You are smart. You are important.
You are all those things and so much more. We want you know that although we’d like to imagine what you are going through, we cannot. We cannot imagine the decision you have to make but know that we have the utmost respect for you, your child, your family and your difficult situation. We can only show support and encouragement in such a difficult time in your life. You are noble and generous in a time where you could be scared and indecisive. We value what you are doing and the opportunity you are giving us. You are stronger than most in this world and we praise you for it all.
Even before we got together, we both had intentions and hopes to adopt in our adult future. It is something we both always wanted. Our original plan was to have a child or two of our own and then adopt. We thought we needed to be “experienced” parents before we adopted but as we learned, that is not true. Love and dedication is what we need. After recent difficulties getting pregnant, we are ready to adopt. We are ready to be great parents. We both have very close family members that were adopted, an aunt and sister-in-law. Their stories and support of the rest of our family has only strengthened our desire to adopt. After adopting our first child, we hope to continue to expand the family by naturally trying and adoption.
The love you have for your baby shows in your ability to make this decision. We will take that love and make it grow. We will give this child everything we can possibly give, from love and laughter to a good education and preparation for their adult lives. We cannot wait to raise your child and enjoy every stage of their lives, as we will also share with you. Your baby will have smothering grandparents, loving aunts and uncles and rambunctious cousins to play with. He or she will have the sweetest protective fur brother. But most of all he or she will have parents that devote their lives and their happiness to them. We will bring your child everywhere we go and introduce them to everything and everyone. We spend many weekends in the spring, summer and early fall at the lake and camping with many cousins and friends. They will be introduced to sports and hobbies and will have the ability to decide for themselves what they want to do.
We want our child to grow up knowing all in this world. We want to raise them as human beings who love first and judge last. They will not see differences in this world but see the wonderful attributes in everyone they meet. We thank you from the bottom of our hearts for giving us this opportunity and for sharing your life with us. This is all because of you and we hope to repay you by giving your child the best life he or she can have.
Tim & Meredith