Dear Expectant Mother,
Have you ever thought you had lost something forever, only to have it surprise you by turning up in an unexpected place? That’s kind of how it has been with our hopes for building a family. We tried to have a baby for years and the pain of infertility had brought us to our knees. It was heartbreaking to go through so much loss over and over again. Just when we thought our dreams of having a baby were shattered, something happened – someone like you gave us the greatest gift we could ever imagine.
When we received a phone call in July of 2018 letting us know that a birth mother had chosen us, we were overwhelmed with joy...and fear. What if something happened to her or the baby during labor? What if she changed her mind? The day our daughter Zoa was born was truly a roller coaster of emotions but we wouldn’t change a single minute. Because of it, we love her even more than if we’d been able to carry her into this world ourselves.
Our little family is wonderful but it isn’t complete yet. Somebody tiny and perfect and unexpected is still missing from our lives, and we can’t wait to meet him or her. We’ve always hoped to have more than one child, because both of us were lucky enough to grow up with siblings close to our own age. We know that Zoa will be an amazing big sister if you give us the opportunity to welcome your baby into our family.
We are so thankful that you would consider offering us the privilege of raising your child as our own. Being able to become parents again would mean the world to us and we promise to love your baby every moment of every day.
We realize that whatever led you to this choice could not have been easy, and we have so much respect for your strength. We hope that you will be able to take the next steps in your own life full of peace and confidence knowing that you have done an amazingly selfless and generous thing. We are supportive of an adoption that is as open or as closed as you are comfortable with, and we look forward to creating a plan with you that all of us can feel good about Even if you choose not to be present in this child’s life, you will always be part of it in our hearts.
Thank you again for making the brave consideration to place your child with us. Thank you helping us grow our family. Thank you for giving your baby the gift of life and the opportunity to be loved.
Billy & Megan