Dear Expectant Mother:
Considering adoption for your child demonstrates the strength and love you have for your unborn baby. I deeply appreciate you taking the time to learn more about me.
I have experienced great love and heartbreak in my life, and those experiences have made me a stronger person. While I am still single, I do believe in love- but my focus right now is on starting my own family. I have always wanted to be a mom and my entire life I have been surrounded by children. I am Godmother to 6 children that I am very close to. I have established myself in my career, and have focused on being financially secure, so I could provide a wonderful life for a child. I have reached the point in my life that I have accomplished so much career wise and now my greater purpose in life is to become a mother.
Adoption is not new to my family as my aunt has adopted two children that I am extremely close to. My aunt and cousins have been a wonderful support through this process, and I know firsthand what living in a beautiful blended adopted family is like. I also have friends who have been adopted and as I grew up surrounded by them, I knew adopting was something I want to do in life.
Family is everything to me and my entire life I was surrounded by a family that welcomed everyone and taught me love. My parent’s divorced when I was younger, but I was very loved by them both and still am today. My father always encouraged my sister and I to study and focus on education so we could have successful lives. My mother was and still is my everything; she was the mother, the father, the teacher, the one who let me crawl in her bed when I was scared, gave me advice but also set the ground rules! I deeply appreciate her. As I face being a single parent, and you consider if that is the right thing for your child, I have thought about a few things. I know what being raised by mostly one parent is like. I have an incredible role model in my mother for the strength, determination and patience it takes to raise children.
While I will love and care for your child with my whole heart I do think it is important as a single mother to provide a child with positive male role models in their lives. I am very close to my brother-in-law who coaches my nieces and nephews’ sports teams and is a wonderful father to his 3 wonderful children. I also have several close friends who are kind, loving, passionate men; some of whom have children and some who don’t. Their careers range from stay-at-home dad and sales rep to deep-sea fisherman and just as their careers vary, so do their ethnicities.
I enjoy traveling. As a child my mom took us all over the world to India, Africa, Europe and places in the US. I plan on doing the same thing with your child. I want them to know the world, see the beauty in different cultures. Experience what food in other places of the world is like, maybe even learn another language. I studied French in college and speak basic French and, in addition, speak some elementary Spanish. My sister is fluent in Spanish. My father is from India and speaks Tamil. We were raised to embrace learning other languages and always be open to experience various cultural traditions around the world.
As you imagine what life would be like for your child with me, I thought I would share with you some of what we would be doing together! I am a major snuggler, my niece and I have earned the nickname “Glommy” in our family because we love to give hugs…so your child would have lots of hugs! I sing out loud in the car, and frequently have dance parties by myself in the kitchen. Music is important to me, so I will be singing in the car with your baby and we will dance a lot laughing at ourselves. We will be outside enjoying the sunshine going on walks, playing at the park and of course going to the beach! My nieces and nephews all play ice hockey, so I am sure they will want to be teaching their cousin to play as well one day.
I have a second home in the Bahamas where we will vacation frequently and where we will dance to reggae music, be at the beach, swim and enjoy dinners with my friends down there whom I consider family! We have big dinners where we cook what the local fish catch of the day is with peas and rice and baked macaroni. Usually the nights end in a game of cards or dominos.
The holidays are typically spent with my entire family: my sister and her kids and our extended family. We are always doing something fun, whether it’s a game of charades, singing along to my mom playing the harmonica or baking all together. This past Christmas, we all picked names out of a hat and had to write a Rap song about another family member. It was hilarious to see everyone perform their Christmas Rap!
It’s hard to put into words the immense gratitude I have for you and I want you to know that your child will always know that they have a first mother who loves them very much. You will always be a positive part of our life in conversation and nightly prayer. You are our biggest gift and blessing, to bring us together. Love, family, honesty, travel, smiles, and fun will be what your child’s future will be filled with.