Dear Expectant Mom,
I am so grateful to you and appreciate your courage and strength very much. The challenges you face as you carry and nurture your baby are incredible. Although I cannot put myself in your shoes, I can tell you about my life and how much I would like to raise the child you carry and love them each and every day. I adopted a little boy 5 years ago and he has been my joy and heart ever since. I want to add to our family and adopt a second child to double our love and joy. Family means so much to me and I appreciate my parents and brothers (and families) so very much. I have realized that I want that for my children. I want them to have siblings to play with and lean on, not just parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins… more cousins… and more family. We are looking forward to this journey and thank you so much for considering us for your new baby. He or she would add even more light, love and joy into our lives and hearts.
So, I’d like to share our lives with you. We live in a 2-story, colonial home with a large back yard on a quiet cul-de-sac. Our front and back yards are grassy and filled with trees. We have a fenced-in, ½ acre back yard with a swing set and lots of space to run and play. My son, Nicholas, loves to be pushed on the swings and has just learned how to swing himself. He prefers being pushed. We have a toddler basketball net on the patio and we take turns shooting baskets. We have set up a t-ball stand and we are working on hitting and fielding the balls. He has a terrific throw and loves to toss the ball, catching however is a skill we work on as more often than not the ball just falls or bounces right out of his hands. He loves to swim, so in the summer, in addition to swim lessons, we fill an inflatable pool in the grass and he plays in the water with toys or blows bubbles or pretends to be an underwater mer-man.
Our weekends are filled with activities; sometimes involving a picnic lunch and bike trip at the nearby state park. Eating outdoors is the best part, and enjoying the woods and bugs (his favorite, not mine). Other times we plan trips to the beach, which is a short 15 minute drive from the house. Beach days or evenings are so much fun for both of us. I put Nicholas in a swim vest for added buoyancy and we play in the waves. He pretends to surf on his boogie board, and we body surf into the sand. He loves the water and a short dip can turn into two hours of the two of us playing in the water before its time to build a sandcastle. (Mostly me hauling water to create a mud pile with a moat and corner turrets. On rainy days the Aquarium is fun and just 15 minutes from the house. Nicholas loves the sharks and the kids’ submarine set up with all sorts of controls. He pretends to do missions and hits all the buttons and sets off the alarms while watching the sharks and other fish swim past the windows. He refuses to leave until the mission is complete.
At the moment we have a beta fish, he’s a brilliant royal blue and has massive billowing fins. My son is learning how to take care of him with daily feedings and cleaning the tank (with help). We’ve talked about a dog for him in another year as he learns the responsibilities that come with being a pet owner. I know he can’t wait to have one to snuggle and plans to sneak him into his bed at night. I had a Collie and a cat growing up and cats as an adult; I really want to pass along the love of having pets in the home and family.
I hope to teach my children about love, laughter, joy, friendship, compassion, God, and family. There are so many things to teach them. I love to read and travel, swim and ski, bike and hike-I want to share it all. I believe in church and family as well as being productive in life and society. I want my children to grow up knowing they are loved and having the capacity to love themselves, their family and others. I served in the USAF for 20 years because I believe in standing up for what is right and being strong when others cannot. There are so many values I want to share with my children and help them grow. But most of all, it’s about love and joy and family.
I will tell your child that you had the strength to love life and give life and share the joy of raising your child and family with me. I will tell them that God helped you make a decision that united us as a family and that God chose us to build that family. When Nicholas and I talk about family and a brother or sister, I tell him God chose him for me, and God chose me for him. When we talk about his birth mom, we talk about her story, her strength and determination and how blessed we are that it led to us becoming a family. We will share this journey with your child too, and how much we are looking forward to growing our family. We will share your courage and how happy and grateful we are to you each and every day.
I love being a mom and every day I have the joy of my son and hope to add the joy of a daughter or another son to grow our family. The hugs and smiles, are amazing, the tears and boo boos are much harder, but being a family, together and growing together is incredible. I always knew I wanted to be a Mom and wasn’t able to carry a child myself. After my son was born and his birth mom entrusted him to me, it was daunting and amazing and so wonderful. I am very excited to grow our family. I tell my son all the time that love is amazing, it never runs out, and there is always room for more. He is excited to be a big brother and is an excellent helper; he can’t wait to play with his new brother or sister and teach them everything. Having a new child in our lives will add to our family and our joy. I can’t wait.
am so blessed and so grateful that you are considering us for your precious
gift. Thank you for taking care of yourself and your child, nurturing them and
loving them enough to give them life and into my care. Love grows the more we
give it and as we bring a new baby and his or her birth mom into our lives it
will grow even more. I will thank God every day for you and for our precious