Dear Expecting Mom,
Hello, and thanks for taking a closer look at us! We are Jim and Jen and can only imagine the questions that you are facing right now. Hopefully this letter can start to answer them for you.
are Jim, Jen, and Aidan?
We met 5 years ago and were married a year later. Jim’s son Aidan (16) is with us 50% and he keeps our lives busy with baseball during the Spring/Summer and hockey during the Fall/Winter. We asked Aidan what we should share with a potential birth mom and his response was “tell them that sports are a big part of our family.” When the TV is on, it is usually for a UW Badgers game, Milwaukee Brewers game, or any NHL game. The fall tests our household the most since Jim and Aidan are Packer fans while Jen is a Bears fan and that for the 2x a year that they play each other, we are thankful to have multiple TV’s in the house so we aren’t in the same room! Jim plays hockey year-round and Jen keeps busy with running outside when the weather cooperates and yoga or spin classes when it doesn’t. When we aren’t at the ballpark or rink, we like to cook together (Jim is the better cook and Jen is the better baker) and try new recipes. We often have family and friends over for dinner and love to end the evening out on the patio by the fire pit. Jim and Aidan also enjoy fishing and take a yearly trip to Canada in search of elusive muskies.
was the path towards choosing adoption?
From very early in our relationship, we knew we wanted to grow our family. Biologically was not meant to be for us. Growing up, two of Jen’s closest friends were both adopted so it was always a path that felt natural. Our choice to pursue an infant adoption speaks to our desire to raise a child together. Jen missed out on the first 11 years of Aidan’s life so we want to share ALL the firsts together.
would life look like for your child?
We would love your child unconditionally and make sure that they know their path to us was a path of love. We cannot wait to add to our family of three and see where their interests take them.
We have extended family near and far. Jen’s parents live 5 minutes away and frequently help in a variety of ways ranging from home improvement projects to helping bake treats for Aidan’s baseball and hockey teams. Jen’s brother lives in New Jersey so we frequently FaceTime to hear the latest on the nephews (age 11 & 7) and niece (age 9).
Jim’s parents live just over an hour away and we see them several times a year. We are extremely close to one of Jim’s brothers who lives close by and his youngest is a toddler so your child would have a cousin close in age to grow up with.
We have many close friends in the neighborhood with young children, including a newborn across the street. There are many playgrounds within walking distance so there will be plenty of options to explore.
would our child’s ethnicity be celebrated and embraced?
We already have a lot of experience in this department. Jim’s son (Aidan) from his previous marriage is half-Japanese. We routinely cook Japanese food and find other ways to celebrate Aidan’s heritage. One example of this is becoming knowledgeable on the baseball traditions in Japan. Aidan chose his jersey number for his high school baseball team based on the Japanese tradition of the ace pitcher wearing the number 18.
We live in a college town in Wisconsin and the K-12 school district is quite diverse with 19% identifying as African American, 19% Hispanic, 9% Asian, 8% multi-racial, and less than 45% identifying as White. There will be many opportunities for your child and our family to connect with a wide variety of ethnicities.
We would also love your input on this department. If there are family dishes that are staples for family gatherings and/or holidays, we would love to have the recipes! We both love to cook and especially try new dishes. Also, if there are holiday traditions for your family, we would love to incorporate them into our current traditions.
Thank you for reading this and considering us to be potential parents to your child. Hopefully this letter will start to answer your questions about us. We welcome any opportunity to answer any more questions and for you to get to know us better.
Jim and Jen