Dear Expectant Mother,
No words written here could express the thanks that we feel for being considered in your adoption decision. We can only imagine what you are feeling and all the things you are going through, and we are amazed by the courage, strength, and compassion you are showing on your journey. This is a big decision to make, and we hope that getting to know us will give you comfort in your decision.
We talk a bit more about ourselves in other profile documents, but as a brief introduction, we met 12 years ago, when Antonio was already working and Bryan had just finished studying for the bar exam. We quickly realized how much we had in common. First by going to indie concerts and discovering new restaurants together. Then by traveling together—soon to China, later to France, Brazil, Thailand, Japan, and over ten other countries. Always discussing how much we look forward to one day welcoming children into our family.
We both grew up in small towns with families that helped us to understand the importance of education. Both of our parents are alive, married, and eager for more grandchildren. Antonio has two sisters (who work as a nurse and a dentist), both of whom are married and have children. Bryan has two brothers and one sister (who work as a doctor, architect, and engineer), all of whom are married with children already here or arriving soon. Because of our families, we both value education; both of us saved to pay for our undergrad and graduate degrees. Our families also helped us become people who are loyal, honest, adventurous, and curious about things big and small.
Although we do not currently live in either of our original home states, we regularly travel to visit our families in the Southwest and Southeast. We recently bought farmland close to Bryan’s family, where we look forward to our children one day playing in the fields and riding horses.
Closer to our current home, we have a wonderful group of friends nearby whom we get together with regularly, which always involves children of various ages. Interactions with children of friends, as well as our seven (soon to be eight!) nephews and nieces, have helped confirm how much we love kids and want a child of our own.
Since we knew early on that we wanted to adopt children, we purposefully made decisions with our future child in mind. One of those is where we live. We bought a home in a neighborhood just outside the city, with an incredible yard that includes Bryan’s garden in the summer, a waterfall year-round, large trees (perfect for a treehouse), plenty of space for a jungle gym, and a nature trail just across the cul-de-sac. The nature trail follows a creek under a bridge and up to a stone bluff above a larger river and the city beyond. We are blessed to live in a community with resources to give our children excellent educational and recreational opportunities. We also anticipate that Antonio will transition to part-time work to be able to have more time with your child.
We are so excited to have a child! For our part, we commit to provide unconditional love, in a home filled with laughter, joy, and warmth. We have already started collecting toys and books. We dream of playing in the yard together, baking enchiladas and cakes together, biking together, gardening together and taking excursions to our country house or to the museums in the city. We also look forward to showing your child the world and already have a few kid-friendly beaches and international destinations on our list.
We thank you again for considering adoption and considering us. We will always be honest and upfront with your child that you made the most selfless decision in the world. And if there is anything we hope you take away from this letter, it is that we will love your child unconditionally and shower them with kindness.
Antonio & Bryan