Dear Expectant Mother,
It brings a smile when I (Mike) sit in the other room trying not to laugh out loud while my wife is trying to get the little one to eat his dinner. When I hear, “It’s not fair that I have to eat mashed potatoes!” I almost fall on the floor laughing. I hope the little one doesn’t come running around the corner, because if he sees me laughing, he will never eat those mashed potatoes.
You could say that we get pretty excited about fireworks, Easter egg hunts, bicycle rides and family dinners. We always pretend to be mad when Grandma gives all of the grand kids cookies right before dinner, but inside we are laughing. We have a great extended family of grandpas, grandmas, aunts, uncles, and cousins who get together all the time for dinners and barbecues. It’s all about family.
As the cliché goes, “life is like a roller coaster with ups and downs." We have certainly had our ride. We have seen our hopes and desires fall apart before our eyes and had to restart and rebuild. We have had years where we were “in the money” followed by years where we wondered where it all went. We have seen many hardships, but the hardships always pass. A friend of mine once told me that the sun always comes up tomorrow. How true that is in life. Happiness always breaks through the dark clouds and shines. Life always turns a corner.
We get thrilled about the prospect of having another child in our home. We are at a point in our lives where parenting is what matters to us most. We are established in our careers and no longer struggle to climb the corporate ladder. We are comfortable. We have time for children. We have room for one more and we are hoping an adoption will work out for us.
We live in a small town. The streets are quiet. There is an elementary school next to us. We know the people here. We wave to each other all the time. Our children play together. If you could believe it, the community is like an extended family. I mention this because this place that we live is something that we value greatly. It provides a safe place to raise a child. It provides safety from many of the problems that threaten children today. Just a ten minute drive from our home is a bigger city where we work and shop. All of the busy noise stays there when we drive home. It makes me smile.
One of our greatest desires is to show the world to children. To provide experiences, teach and instill good moral values are our responsibilities as parents. We are happy in that responsibility. We are happy to put our own agendas aside to accommodate all of the soccer games, dance recitals, spilled milk, skinned knees, endless repeats of the TV show Paw Patrol, sore throats and sleepless nights. In short, it is time for us to be fantastic parents and we are ready to take it on.
We are grateful that you have considered adoption. We can only imagine how hard this is. We wish you well and hope that everything will work out in your life. Thank you for reading our letter.
Mike and Jamie