Dear Expectant Mother,
Oh… where to begin? Let’s start with thank you because it all starts with you! We know each adoption experience is unique, but we trust it is divinely created as it should be; and blessed with the outcome of God’s most precious gift, a child – it is an honor to have your consideration and trust.
We have been together for 24 years, and we have tremendous support from our family & friends. Many people say that our personality styles are very complimentary. Elinor is abstract, creative and loves the theater while Donna is very focused, driven and loves being outdoors. We both love animals and have two wonderful dogs who are affectionate and lively (Remy & Casey).
Several years before adopting Gianna (our four-year old), I, Donna, tried to get pregnant. After many attempts, a surgery and a donated embryo, we decided to put our hopes into adoption. Being parents has brought so much more meaning to our lives. Gianna is such a joy that we want to share our love with another child who will be a little sister or brother. She has already talked about where the baby will “sit” at the dinner table and has committed to “helping” with everything but changing diapers!
We have plenty of room in our hearts and our NC home for at least one more. We live outside of the city on one acre and life is fun here. Our weekends are filled with adventure – with treasure hunts, hiking, biking, going to the park or just playing hide-n-seek. You’ll often find us packing a lunch and heading to the zoo or a museum for a day of exploration. On Sunday mornings as a family, we enjoy making chocolate chip pancakes and heading to church where we each do Faith classes (both young and old). However, we do blend the traditions from both of our upbringings by celebrating holidays from both the Jewish and Christian faiths.
We take fun vacations all over, but most recently to Disney World, the beach, New York City, and to visit family. Life is not boring here; we also belong to the club in our community for swimming, tennis and fun holiday events.
With your child, we’d hope to have even more laughter, more joy and more fun with two children. We imagine great opportunities for your child, from preschool to college, with every chance to expand his or her mind and to chase his or her dreams in an unimaginable way. We are very lucky because Elinor would continue to be a stay-at-home mom to support all of the day-to-day extra-curricular activities.
If you were to consider us as adoptive parents, we promise to keep your child surrounded by love, laughter and gentle guidance. Whatever your wishes, we will respect your need for either confidentiality or the openness to follow your child’s journey. And every step of the way, we will preserve your story. We imagine a life for your child that offers adventure, exploration and fun.
We are thankful to have had the opportunity to get to know our first daughter’s birth mother and birth father and we have had contact with her maternal grandmother. While that may have been a unique situation, we were grateful for the time which has allowed us to continue to honor our birth mom’s journey. Given the chance, we would have also welcomed continued contact with the birth father. We continue to communicate with Gianna’s birth mother via sharing of photos and updates and when convenient for her, we will do an occasional Facetime session. While this may not be your wishes, we will respect your needs and never let your child forget your courage and love for them.
We both had wonderful childhoods and we will make sure that our home is magical in every way, every day. We promise to dedicate our lives to giving your child love, security and the opportunity to fulfill his or her dreams.