Dear Expectant Mother,
We are very excited to meet you and your daughter and to get to know more about you. We know you must be extremely nervous about giving your daughter to a family that you do not really know a lot about. If there is anything you want to share with us regarding your culture, race, or heritage we will do our best to incorporate that into her life. Regardless of the reason that you are choosing to give your daughter up for adoption, we want you to know that we have the utmost respect for you. Your courage and love for your daughter is immeasurable. As your daughter grows up in our family we will share lots of pictures with you so you can see all of her hopes and dreams come true.
Your daughter will have two older brothers to look out for her and help her along the way. They are very excited to have a sister. Our family gives lots of hugs and kisses to our boys, but we also show our love by spending quality time together and it won’t be any different for your daughter. We can guarantee she will be spoiled being the only girl in our family and the only girl grandchild on Rachel’s side. Even though there are times that we are very busy, we try to eat dinner as a family as often as possible. Some of our favorite meals together are walking tacos, spaghetti and meatballs, shepherd’s pie, and Friday is usually pizza. Sundays, following church, we usually have lunch with extended family.
Even though we are both music teachers, music is a large part of our lives outside of the classroom. Michael has been the choir director at his church for over 20 years and I am the volunteer bell choir director at my church. Our boys share our love of music and love singing songs and playing instruments. We turn on the radio and they sing to pop songs like “Uptown Funk,” “Dance Monkey” or “Shut Up and Dance with Me” or they sing what they learned in school or from Sunday school. They go around the house randomly bursting into the theme songs to Disney movies like “Frozen II,” “Moana,” “Zootopia” and “Trolls.” Our boys also play around on the multitude of musical instruments we have acquired over the years. Isaac has his own tiny drum set and David just started taking piano lessons. We try to let our boys experience different things to see where their interests lie. David enjoys basketball and karate while Isaac is just getting started with some different activities. Both boys love their video games, but also enjoy time at our local YMCA as well as riding their bikes and playing on our swing set. Although our boys are in different activities, we also value their school work and try to instill in them the importance of good grades. I hope that giving our children different experiences they will be well rounded adults and I can only hope the same for your little girl as she grows in our family.
Our love for children led us both to become teachers and now we love being parents. Having a girl in the family will fill that void in our hearts. It is all boys in the household including our cat. As your daughter’s adoptive mom it will be exciting to have girl time to enjoy things like shopping, clothes, and doing hair and makeup to get dressed up. We are all excited to do different activities like bike riding, going to the movies, and swimming in the summer that will include our boys and a girl.
We cannot begin to imagine what you are feeling right now, but as parents we can understand that you must be filled with all sorts of emotions. We respect your courage to consider placing your daughter for adoption regardless of the reason. We would be so blessed for you to choose us to care for your daughter. We wish we could ease any anxiety and stress you may have through this process, but rest assured your daughter will be well cared for and will have a wonderful life filled with love and joy.
Michael & Rachel