Dear Expectant Mother,
We write you this letter not yet knowing you or your unborn child, and still the love and compassion we feel for you both is beyond what we could express in words. As you read this, we hope you get a sense of the deep love we have for one another and that it gives you unwavering confidence in your adoption decision. Whatever the circumstances are that have brought you to this place, we hope you find peace and rest in your adoption decision knowing that God uses all things together for good. This is our second adoption and we feel tremendous joy and excitement knowing it is God’s plan for us to grow our family through adoption.
Eric and I met in 1999 in a small-group bible study. We were married by the end of 2000 and have cherished one another ever since. Eric is a gentle, loving, patient, intelligent, hard-working, and honest man. He works as a Principle Computer Engineer for a large company and has enjoyed his 21 years with them. I consider it a privilege to be stay-at-home and homeschooling mom who works hard to make our home a comfortable place for us. As a family we enjoy weeknight evenings around the dinner table talking about our day, playing board games, and our Saturday morning tradition of homemade buttermilk waffles. Our lovely 5-bedroom, 3 ½ bathroom home is in an active, family-friendly community in Northern California where we enjoy long bike rides on the trails, play dates at the park, and story time at the library. In the summer months we enjoy swimming at the aquatic center, and free time in the winter we can be found snowboarding and sledding at our local snow parks. Our favorite time of year, though, is autumn when we can go to local apple orchards and pumpkin patches to sample a variety of fresh baked goods and treats.
We prayed for 8 years for the blessing of children to fill our hearts and home, all the while, and still, knowing we are content in whatever “station” God has us. In 2010, we joyfully welcomed our son, Samuel, after years of fertility treatments, multiple unsuccessful IVF trials, and a miscarriage. In 2014, we began our first adoption journey and our second son, Isaiah, was born in 2015. We saw firsthand what beautiful, sacrificial love was through Isaiah’s birthmother’s choice for adoption. Our hope was/is not in medicine or man, but rather that God can use all things for our good and for His glory. The journey of infertility, much like this adoption journey, taught us to wait patiently for His timing, His plan/will, and His way because the outcome will always be better than what we can do for ourselves.
We love each other greatly because we know God’s love for us and we want to share our love with the children He entrusts in our care-a love that is sacrificial, unconditional, and boundless. One of our favorite books in our home is “The Valley of Vision.” One poem in it, entitled “Love Rest in God,” accurately expresses our prayer in our home, and a portion of it reads “Teach me that genuine love is different in kind from that wrought by rational arguments or the motive of self-interest, that such love is a pleasing passion affording joy to the mind where it is. Grant me grace to distinguish between the genuine and the false, and to rest in Thee who art all love.” This adoption allows you as the birthmother, as well as us, to exemplify this kind of genuine love to this child and we will be forever bonded because of it.
Thank you for taking the time to read about us as you consider options for your baby. We pray that your journey is filled with an abundance of love and support.
Eric & Sandra